To think 4 pints is a lot to drink

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About twice a week (including every single Friday) DH goes out with his mates and drinks about this much. If it's a special occasion, it's more, but this is the norm.

He thinks of this is very moderate (and to be fair, he drank a LOT more in his youth. He's now 50).

The thing is, I find him really annoying when he comes home from the pub (and wants to noisily eat next to me while I'm watching my sitcoms/whatever), and if I'm honest I find him really unattractive when he's been drinking. It also means he is a pain in the arse every Saturday morning, and has no energy and is in a bad mood all day (though he denies it).

AIBU to be fed up?

I don’t think four pints is a lot. I routinely drink three on a night out, and I’m quite small.

Yanbu at all, I absolutely detest being in the company of drunk people, if I were you I'd much prefer him to come home after you've gone to bed. The being hungover every Saturday would be incredibly tedious.

I don’t think four pints is a lot either.

4 pints and he is drunk and hungover the next day?

Four pints is a standard quick drink, not a lot in my view and not enough to make me feel drunk.

I don't think it's alot, but I drink to much!

Probably not a lot compared to when he was younger, but a lot for a 50 year old.

Also no one can get away from a hangover at that age.

At least try to get him down to 2 or 3.

If he is coming home drunk and has a hangover, he's drinking more than 4 pints!

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I'd drink more than that and some whiskey too. I'm near the same age, dh says I talk too much when I come home lol I always tell dh to stay out late when he goes out so as to make sure I'm asleep before he gets in as he is very annoying when drunk he keeps laughing and waffles alot. He'd have more than 4 pints in one night out.

There’s no way he should be getting a hangover on 4 pints

I don’t think that’s much for a man, I’d be drunk on four pints, but most blokes I know would just be nicely merry. Certainly not hangover territory.

Thanks for the replies. OK, so consensus is that this is OK. Fair enough. To be fair, he's not drunk exactly, just annoying and cantankerous.

Thanks for getting it, though, @Babysharkdododont. Nice to know I'm not the only unreasonable puritan

4 pints isn’t much for a night out.

I dont know any 50 year olds that are drunk after 4 pints. Or hungover after 4 pints.

You sound very crabby and a bit of a kill joy to be honest.

I agree 4 pints isn't a lot and I would be shocked if it affected him so much that night and the next day, either he is drinking more than he admits or maybe you are looking for things that aren't there I don't know

I don't think it's a lot either. I would consume that at a beer festival, but I often have 2 pints at the pub. I don't know anyone who is drunk and hungover after 4 pints either, unless they are drinking 8% beer perhaps. It's just enough to give you the munchies and a good night's sleep!
Perhaps he is drinking more than this, or drinking chasers.

Interesting. I'd be steaming after 4 pints, so I'm surprised more others wouldn't be.
He drinks quite strong beer (often 6%)

From your description of his behaviour when he comes home and the next day, I'd suspect he was lying about only having 4 pints.

4 pints isn't that much on a night out, whether it's a harmful amount depends on what he's drinking the rest of the week eg at home. The bigger problem is that you are resentful of him being out and don't sound like you have your own friends.

I don’t think it sounds like an excessive amount, but I totally get what you mean about disliking DH after he’s been drinking! I basically don’t love DH when drunk 😄 his eyes change, he’s very irritating, he goes all soppy and unattractive 😄 completely different person. I hear ya!

4 pints isn’t a lot.

4 pints is not much at all for a night out with the lads. If he is that drunk and hungover the next day I agree that he must be having more than 4.

@stucknoue, I have good friends and also go out frequently, I'm just not much of a drinker these days (2 pints tops since we had kids). I actually love the fact he goes out regularly, because I think it's important he sees his friends too. I just hate that he interrupts my programs when he gets back and then is an arse on Saturdays.