To think 4 pints is a lot to drink

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About twice a week (including every single Friday) DH goes out with his mates and drinks about this much. If it's a special occasion, it's more, but this is the norm.

He thinks of this is very moderate (and to be fair, he drank a LOT more in his youth. He's now 50).

The thing is, I find him really annoying when he comes home from the pub (and wants to noisily eat next to me while I'm watching my sitcoms/whatever), and if I'm honest I find him really unattractive when he's been drinking. It also means he is a pain in the arse every Saturday morning, and has no energy and is in a bad mood all day (though he denies it).

AIBU to be fed up?

Is he ok? Like healthwise? WTH is he drinking that he is off next day like this after 4 pints?
4 of strong ones can make people giddy, but really shouldn't cause all day hangover.

10 is a proper night out here... With water in between of course. Still can properly function, albeit loudly and giggly and in a morning the yuck feeling disappears after a pint of water and shower🤷‍♀️

Is the actual number of pints he drinks relevant? yes!

HCP- as part of health checks re alcohol I have to ask how many times in the last year have they (male) drank 8 or more units in a single session. 4 pints is 8 units so is counted as binge drinking. Your partners answer would be weekly which means he is drinking (at least) 16 units or more weekly and the guidelines are for no more than 14 units per week so even if he drinks nothing else at all during the week apart, from 4 pints on each of those 2 nights, then he is already increasing his risk of CVD/stroke/hypertension etc.

AIBU to be fed up? no, it would piss me off having my programmes interrupted but if he carries on drinking too much maybe he won’t be around much longer to bother you......

I just looked up binge drinking. It seems that the NHS defines it as over 8 units in one go for men. Interesting.

www.nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-support/binge-drinking-effects/

@tfoot75....annual mot's can't tell you how bad your liver is.

A Liver function test wil?

Probably not a lot compared to when he was younger, but a lot for a 50 year old.Also no one can get away from a hangover at that age

What crap. Im a 48 yr old, 9 stone, 5ft4 woman and 4 pints over the course of the evening wouldn't touch the sides and there's no chance I'd have a hangover.

I appreciate though that if you're stone cold sober then even someone tipsy could be quite annoying especially if you're in the middle of watching something. Maybe join him out for a couple (or a soft drink) instead of staying in watching Fraser, just a thought.

If he's annoying you watching tv, and he ends up hungover anyway, he may as well stay out longer and leave you in peace

Yes
I spent al Saturday rough as shit and I had 3.5 pints
I don’t drink like that twice weekly and not would I
You will have a struggle to convince him I Guess ?

Four pints is not a lot at all, but that doesn't mean this amount can't affect someone very negatively. Tolerances to alcohol and the personality changes it can bring out can vary wildly depending on the person.

Oh, and YABU to think 4 pints is a lot, but YANBU to be annoyed if it's still enough to make him irritating

@TabbyMumz.
I go home to have my M.O.T, which includes intensive organ testing, including an ultrasound of liver and kidneys, along with blood and urine tests.
Medical M.O.T's in the UK are a waste of time.

There’s no way a man who drinks twice a week is getting hangovers off four pints. I suspect he’s fibbing about the amount he drinks. On a typical night out with his mates my DH is more likely to drink 6-7 pints. I agree with you that it’s annoying though! I can’t bear it when he walks in and wants to talk to me after a night out, I just want him to bugger off to bed.

I think 4 pints is a lot. My husband would be annoying after that

Four pints is really not a lot. He lives there too. He's allowed a life. What a horrible way to live where he's not allowed to disturb you watching frasier.

Seriously?

Probably not a lot compared to when he was younger, but a lot for a 50 year old

Also no one can get away from a hangover at that age

@tttigress. I can assure you that neither me or my husband suffer hangovers, despite the amount we put away and we're both mid 50's.

If he drank four pints every single night then it would be a lot but I don't think four pints on a night out is a lot.

You have my sympathy though as I find my DH annoying when he has had a drink more so if I haven't or haven't had much. I think he has had a lot more than that though when he has gotten very irritating 😂

I'd say 4 pints is absolutely fine for a night out with the lads but I disagree with other posters here, my ex-DH was drunk and hungover after 3 pints (and I know it wasn't a yarn he was spinning, I was with him on most occasions!) so some people are affected differently.

Even if it was half a pint, if it’s affecting your relationship and family life it’s too much. Can you say what you put in your original post to him whilst he’s sober and ask what you can both do about it?

My DH would drink this most nights, quite often more. It’s way above government limits but he (so far) is slim, fit and healthy and has never mentioned a hangover. it doesn’t seem to effect whether he is annoying or not, I think that’s more down to my mood than his alcohol intake.

if it’s affecting your relationship and family life it’s too much

You can't seriously think disturbing her watching frasier is affecting family life. He could easily say she's disturbing his life but enforcing this weird silence rule in the house and sitting watching sitcoms.

Maybe he only goes out for a couple to escape the endless reruns of a 25 year old sitcom

It depends a lot on what beer. 2 pints of Carlsberg? Yuck. 5 of Budvar (not Budweiser)? Cool.

Some beers are shit. Mainly Carlsberg and Budweiser😁

Maybe he only goes out for a couple to escape the endless reruns of a 25 year old sitcom

When I was growing up, a phrase for being tipsy was "one over the eight" so anything less than eight pints was considered standard!

@cccameron

Maybe he only goes out for a couple to escape the endless reruns of a 25 year old sitcom

Quite possibly
But then why can't he just stay out till it's finished