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On phone during bj

156 replies

JudasHisCarrot · 16/06/2019 21:48

Hi all, just wanted some thoughts as not sure whether I'm overreacting.

Was giving my bf a blow job on the sofa earlier (my suggestion), and a couple on minutes in he picks up his phone and starts looking at it. I asked what he was doing and he said catching up on whatsapp messages from his mates' group chat. I must have looked shocked because he said he didn't think it would be a big deal.

I stopped and came upstairs, had a shower and pottered around. After half an hour he came up and said sorry. I said that I didn't want to talk to him.

He has form for being on his phone A LOT, just on twitter and messaging his mates, nothing dodgy. And recently he has started not looking at me whilst we're talking, glancing at the tv like he's bored and not listening to me. That's why I may be more pissed off about this than I should have been. I just feel so hurt, and feel like it shows that he doesn't respect me. In all other ways he is a good boyfriend so I just don't know how to take it.

What do you reckon? How would you react?

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mouldyhousemouldylife · 16/06/2019 21:49

Wtf?

Okki · 16/06/2019 21:50

Do you live together?

Tabitha005 · 16/06/2019 21:50

I certainly wouldn't be handing out any more blow-jobs until his manners improve! That's just plain ignorant.

Okki · 16/06/2019 21:51

A young me would've been hurt and confused. Me right now would tell him get his act together or fuck off.

EnglishRose13 · 16/06/2019 21:51

You didn't overreact.

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 16/06/2019 21:51

Well know you know where you figure on his list.
Would be now an ex bf for me op.

Moralitym1n1 · 16/06/2019 21:52

Is this a piss-take?

Gth1234 · 16/06/2019 21:52

He was enjoying it, and making it last longer. I thought it was about Boris Johnson for a moment.

Beesandcheese · 16/06/2019 21:52

A death knell for a relationship indeed. He's not subtle, is he?!

Winterfellismyhome · 16/06/2019 21:52

Unbelievably disrespectful

JudasHisCarrot · 16/06/2019 21:53

Not a piss take unfortunately.

We don't live together, no. Have been seeing each other for just over a year

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BarryBarryTaylor · 16/06/2019 21:53

No that’s really out of order.
If he is bored during having his dong sucked then I wouldn’t bother in future!

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/06/2019 21:53

A good reaction would have been to leave or throw him out. Please don’t let yourself be treated so disrespectfully.

Slazengerbag · 16/06/2019 21:53

Are you sure he wasn’t taking a photo of you?

Lemoneeza · 16/06/2019 21:53

I'm almost certain you can do better that this ignorant disrespectful prick.

JudasHisCarrot · 16/06/2019 21:54

That made me laugh Gth1234 Smile

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SpanglyPop · 16/06/2019 21:54

Move on! You're wasting your time with this absolute loser

PregnantOnPurpose · 16/06/2019 21:54

I stopped suggesting blowjobs when OH stopped eating pineapple.

Sandybval · 16/06/2019 21:54

I second the photo/video possibility.

JudasHisCarrot · 16/06/2019 21:55

No he wasn't slazengerbag. He turned the phone around as soon as I stopped and I saw the screen.

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OutInTheCountry · 16/06/2019 21:56

Are you sure there wasn't a photo of you doing this on WhatsApp?

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 16/06/2019 21:56

That's really rude. My DH would have struggled to remember his own name during a blow job, he certainly wouldn't have had the capacity to go through his phone- it sounds as though he was sending you a message that he doesn't respect you. What a tool. He wouldn't be getting any more...

JudasHisCarrot · 16/06/2019 21:56

No, definitely not photo or vid. Certain of that

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EmeraldShamrock · 16/06/2019 21:56

Next time he goes down on you lift your phone.
Phones are very addictive unfortunately, he must have it bad if he pined for it during a bj.
Yanbu.

C0untDucku1a · 16/06/2019 21:57

Youre not happy wirh his attitude towards you recently prior to this incident. You dont live together. Dont settle. End it and move on.