On phone during bj

[JudasHisCarrot]

Hi all, just wanted some thoughts as not sure whether I'm overreacting.

Was giving my bf a blow job on the sofa earlier (my suggestion), and a couple on minutes in he picks up his phone and starts looking at it. I asked what he was doing and he said catching up on whatsapp messages from his mates' group chat. I must have looked shocked because he said he didn't think it would be a big deal.

I stopped and came upstairs, had a shower and pottered around. After half an hour he came up and said sorry. I said that I didn't want to talk to him.

He has form for being on his phone A LOT, just on twitter and messaging his mates, nothing dodgy. And recently he has started not looking at me whilst we're talking, glancing at the tv like he's bored and not listening to me. That's why I may be more pissed off about this than I should have been. I just feel so hurt, and feel like it shows that he doesn't respect me. In all other ways he is a good boyfriend so I just don't know how to take it.

What do you reckon? How would you react?

I think he sounds addicted to his phone more than anything else. Am not sure it is personal. I get why you are hurt but at least he apologised.

@EleanorReally

I assume you have either had a drink or a bad day, because your replies are bizarre to say the least.

OP, he is awful for doing that and clearly it's the tip of the iceberg (no pun intended). He sounds very self centered to the point where it can come across as though he isnt in to you, I just think that's probably representative of just how extremely self centered he actually is. You don't want to spend anymore of your time and energy with someone like this. Good riddance to him!

I think he sounds addicted to his phone more than anything else. Am not sure it is personal. I get why you are hurt but at least he apologised.
Er, no - there's also the report of paying more attention to the television. As if phone addiction is something to be tolerated anyway. WTF.

He's a fluffhead.

Get out now, Judas, while you're still capable of noticing his disengagement.
And if you need it.

Definitely leave him.

This actually happened to my best friend many years ago.

She'd been giving him a bit of loving and he'd put the covers over her head! She continued (no idea why but there we go) and then saw some kind of light shining. Her first thought was that he was filming it, so she took his phone and he was looking at a man's Facebook profile while she was DTD!

He said that he was 'just looking at Facebook'

What makes it worse is that she's still with him 5 years later...

@ghrufh !!! I can't believe this is a thing that has happened to more than one person.

Just out of interest what are people's views if a man asks if he can smoke a cigarette during a BJ - which happened to a friend of mine?

The same as the phone, worse than the phone or not as bad?