On phone during bj

[JudasHisCarrot]

Hi all, just wanted some thoughts as not sure whether I'm overreacting.

Was giving my bf a blow job on the sofa earlier (my suggestion), and a couple on minutes in he picks up his phone and starts looking at it. I asked what he was doing and he said catching up on whatsapp messages from his mates' group chat. I must have looked shocked because he said he didn't think it would be a big deal.

I stopped and came upstairs, had a shower and pottered around. After half an hour he came up and said sorry. I said that I didn't want to talk to him.

He has form for being on his phone A LOT, just on twitter and messaging his mates, nothing dodgy. And recently he has started not looking at me whilst we're talking, glancing at the tv like he's bored and not listening to me. That's why I may be more pissed off about this than I should have been. I just feel so hurt, and feel like it shows that he doesn't respect me. In all other ways he is a good boyfriend so I just don't know how to take it.

What do you reckon? How would you react?

Have you any self respect at all ?

He may not be subtle but there's no way he'd take a pic of me and send to his mates

You should have a book easy the enzyme tine he goes down on you.. although from.the small amount you've said about him I'm guessing hes the type that receives but doesnt give..

I do have some self respect otherwise I would have kept going, surely?!

What?! That's so rude! I'd be very upset and would have told him to fuck off, that's really disrespectful.

Asked DP if he would look at his phone while receiving a blowjob, his reply was pretty standard.

"No that's a bit rude isn't it? .. besides, I'd need to get a blowjob first" said with a bitter expression.

Yeah he's definitely a phone addict

I would of kept going.. I would have just added teeth.

He was using you for mechanical pleasure. Totally disengaged from you.

Not worth the effort.

I like your style PregnantOnPurpose. Your posts have made me smile

Time to go your separate ways I think.

He was using your mouth as a fleshlight OP. Totally disengaged from the act that was happening.

Time to bin him off and be pretty disgusted in him tbh.

Oh my God, I agree with AnyFucker.

Your self respect has left the building OP.

Dump him. Don't explain, don't look back.

my boyfriend said it was probably a case of being so relaxed and 'oh yeah' that he just picked it up and .... i asked if he thought your bf was bored and he said 'not bored, if hes bored hes gay'

but he said he could see where he was coming from. and if you say he is on his phone a lot maybe he really is addicted to it. i really have felt the itch, where my fingers twitch to go on mumsnet. . . in fact here i am .

i dont think he was being purposely EVIL (which he was) but he probably should take this as a wake up call to address his internet addiction. because if he cant stay off the phone during a blowy well then. he definitely is addicted.

Would you really dump someone over this?

LTB

Yep.

What would you tell your future DD?

Oh God how foul.

Get rid.

Dump him...

Or next time in the act, grab his phone and rub it up against his knob and say in a OTT seductively way "Oh yeah you love your phone, oh it feels so good this screen" etc etc and then dump him after you've flung it in his face

Holy shit, he would have been out the door with his bloody phone.

Would you really dump someone over this?

Yes. Not because of the actual situation but because of what it signifies.

Lack of respect for a start.

Ugh and they say romance is dead. Next time you're having sex flick through a magazine.

I have two dd's and I'd tell them both to not put up with shit like that