To make him wait.

[Northernsoulgirl45]

So dh has been ill and has needed quite alot of support from me. We have 3 dc also.
I have been run ragged keeping things going at home and taking dh to his many appointments and work etc. Also helping with dressing and doing all the cooking etc etc.
Thankfully I only work part time. As a result I have missed out on leisure time eg gym etc.
Anyway dh has been in hospital since Friday following a planned op. He believes he will be discharged on Monday.
Today I said that he may need to wait till PM for collection as I had a group to attend and also wanted to go on a planned walk.
He wanted me to attend earlier group but I pointed out that I had also planned a walk as I desperately need some self care/ me time.
His response was so you ard going to leave me at hospital when I can be at home .....
Aibu to think that he was unfair to guilt trip me or aibu to potentially keep him waiting to attend mv group/health walk.

No worries. I know I wasn't very clear.

Hope you have enjoyed your walk this morning OP and are at your group now and getting to participate uninterrupted. Life sounds really difficult at the moment, I hope you are able to have some respite.

You are also important OP. I hope you had a good walk and it was therapeutic for you

I have spent years of my life in hospital and I can't ever remember being told "you can go home" and actually leaving being in the same timeframe. Many times my parents, or sisters, or DH have arrived to collect me only to have to wait for hours and hours before everything is ready and I could actually leave. In the end I would just telephone someone when I was ready to leave and they would come then.

Carers need care. Take your walk OP, do your group and do not feel guilty. Get your DH to call when he is actually up and ready to leave.

So glad to see this thread has taken a positive turn. Plus a realistic one with the fact that discharges often take hours for many reasons.

Carers need care pretty much sums it up.

He won't get any say in when he gets discharged. He will be waiting in the departure room.

I can't believe you wouldn't want to pick him up as soon as.

@playmytune carers insisting on a break is NOT selfish. Carers are the least bloody selfish people out there, so give it a rest martyr

Thank you. To update he came home late afternoon.

Correction was discharged late afternoon so no waiting.

Really enjoyed the walk thank you. Was needed.

Really enjoyed the walk thank you. Was needed.

glad all's gone well for you.... take care.

Glad it worked out OP. Please remember to make sure you consider your own physical and emotional needs while you are in the position of stretching yourself thin for everyone else. It isn't wrong for others to have a little bit of not getting exactly what they want so you can recharge yourself.