Getting pregnant at age 47, chance is so negligible that I don't need to bother with the Map?

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DH and I had a quickie this AM. Condom was empty but he definitely orgasmed. It was stuck inside me so he thinks the contents tipped out.

My super market chemist has run out of the morning after pill and the nearest one is a 15 minute drive away. I cba to go and spend £35 for nothing really and I'm exhausted after a 6 mile walk. I've also been on quite strong antibiotics for the last two weeks so not sure it will even work?

AIBU to think I don't need to worry too much at my age. DH is 50. We have 4 DC already. My periods are spacing further apart which indicates menopause approaching.

WWYD?

Funny enough 35 was my limit too, 4 babies in less than 6 years has knackered my body. Now I’m 44 there is no way I could cope with being pregnant again. DH has had the snip and I’m on the mini pill just in case.

OP I would not even risk it, get thee to the chemist

How long ago was your last period? I reckon your husband needs to find out about vasectomy in future!

Just send him for the snip, for heaven's sake. You can have as many faff-free quickies as you like. No more driving across town. No more worry.

It's an operation, not a quick hair cut

Years ago I can remember a work colleague telling us that her mother got pregnant with her at 47 and ''going through the change''.
Her mother already had two grown up daughters and was embarrassed to tell them she was pregnant and thought about having an abortion.Then she remembered her own mother who had got pregnant at the same age and died having a back street abortion.
My friend became an aunt at 10 months old her nephew was more like a brother to her.She also remembers her school friends referring to her mother as her grandmother , they thought her mother was too old.

'You have less than a 1% chance of a pregnancy using your own eggs aged 45.'

I hit the jackpot then, the one and only time dh and I took a risk.

Op..cherie blair, my gran...you can be very fertile just before menopause...natures last throw of the dice. Do you wnt a baby or not op...if not get the morning after pill, if you do, dont.

It's an operation, not a quick hair cut

I know!! DH had one.

As I say, just send him for the snip. Done and dusted and then it's worry free.

And it's hardly an 'operation'. Local anaesthetic, in and out.

If you don't want a baby get the MAP asap.
I know a few cases where someone got pregnant unexpectedly in their late 40s. I've heard that there can be extra bursts of fertility in some people - last chance saloon type of thing.

Worra, it’s really is a minor operation, local anaesthetic, a few days off to rest ‘the area’ and all done! I’ve had 4 children, really did think it was time for husband to man up and have the snip!! Could not be arsed now with condoms or worry about what contraception is ideal for me in late 40’s.

My Granny has her last baby at 48.

Yes I know what the operation involves but you don't just 'send' someone, like you're asking them to pop down the shops for you.

If he wants a vasectomy then that's his choice, not the OP's.

No you don’t but I’d bloody have the conversation! I’m always amazed how many men ‘refuse’ even though their wives have gone through childbirth a number of times. I imagine childbirth is more painful than a little op with local anaesthetic!

Well clearly she does have to give him a bit of a nudge to step up to the plate, or he'd have suggested it himself by now.

OK then, have a reasonable discussion with him, suggest it's his turn (it really is, she's gestated and given birth to 4 humans), and then wave him out the door for the snip.

And it absolutely IS the OP's place to have an opinion on it.

I got it, thanks all!

Actually thinking about taking it tomorrow mid morning. Then we don't have to faff with condoms tonight or tomorrow morning . We will still be within 24 hours or so of the first session so surely it should be OK and if I'm taking it anyway.........!

DH had decided to get a vasectomy off his own back just after DC4 but his GP put him off it. We'll definitely be looking into it again. I've had the mirena, patches and the pill over the years but decided not to carry on with hormonal stuff after DC4. Was sure it made my anxiety symptoms worse. Hate the faff of condoms but was thinking at my age it'll soon be over. Got quite a few years yet to worry about it though so it seems!

OP I posted something very similar a year ago. I am now back on the pill at 43. We researched vasectomy and there is a 1 in 10 chance of chronic testicular pain. (NHS website). So I have decided to carry on with the pill until 50 (7 years for me) on the plus side I have normal blood pressure, a healthy weight and took it previously with no side effects.

I do wonder if some of these children born a few generations back to much older mums were actually grandchildren born to unmarried teenagers and covered up

It happened quite often.

But late babies also happened. My Grandad was younger than 2 of his nephews, and the same age as another two. Apparently my Gr-Granny was mortified that people knew she was still “at it at her age” but not so mortified she stopped as Grandads sister was 14 months younger than him. All his older sisters were married so no need for an “add on baby” (that’s what they were called locally when I was doing the family tree).

If your periods are regular, then you are still ovulating. Also, the sooner you take MAP, the more effective it is.

A newborn will be far more exhausting than the walk to get the MAP. Go take the pill.

Actually thinking about taking it tomorrow mid morning. Then we don't have to faff with condoms tonight or tomorrow morning.

Take it now, OP - the failure rate is higher the longer you wait.
(Also, with four kids how do you have the energy for sex every twelve hours?! I only have two and I'm bloody exhausted.)

And what I really mean by the 'where do you get the energy' question is 'please don't have more unprotected sex in the hope that a method of emergency contraception with a fairly high failure rate will stop you getting pregnant. That's incredibly daft.'

I had a baby at 47....last year. She’s a beautiful 15 mth old toddler now. It’s not all doom and gloom 🤰🏻!

It was au naturel however so do be warned 😉.

As long as you have periods you can get pregnant. If you already have 4 DCs you are fairly fertile. I wouldn't risk it.

Sounds like you secretly want to get pregnant.

We researched vasectomy and there is a 1 in 10 chance of chronic testicular pain. (NHS website).

Which is utterly dwarfed by the risks (up to, and including, death), pain and inconvenience of 30+ years of menstruation, pregnancies (usually multiple) and childbirth that women just accept.

There's a 9 in 10 chance that everything will be fine, so any man who says 'my body, my choice - and my choice is no, so the problem's yours to solve' is beyond contempt. And they're also shamed by the many men perfectly willing to take the risk on.

On the plus side, once it's done, sex is so much easier, enjoyable, spontaneous and worry-free. It's a total no-brainer.