Getting pregnant at age 47, chance is so negligible that I don't need to bother with the Map?

[TooOldForAllThatShit]

DH and I had a quickie this AM. Condom was empty but he definitely orgasmed. It was stuck inside me so he thinks the contents tipped out.

My super market chemist has run out of the morning after pill and the nearest one is a 15 minute drive away. I cba to go and spend £35 for nothing really and I'm exhausted after a 6 mile walk. I've also been on quite strong antibiotics for the last two weeks so not sure it will even work?

AIBU to think I don't need to worry too much at my age. DH is 50. We have 4 DC already. My periods are spacing further apart which indicates menopause approaching.

WWYD?

@ColdTattyWaitingForSummer

I do wonder if some of these children born a few generations back to much older mums were actually grandchildren born to unmarried teenagers and covered up.

This absolutely 100% DID used to happen. Indeed I know at LEAST half a dozen families where this happened. There was a 15-19 y,o. single daughter, who would buggar off to a camp or a trip away for 5-6 months, and amazingly, their mother (usually mid 40s to 52-ish) would have a baby at almost the SAME TIME.

Lots of people guessed it, but very few people would say. Some people kept it secret for many years, indefinitely even.

As @NottonightJosepheen said, there were many girls back in the past who discovered their sister was their mother.. (when they were maybe in their 20s or 30s...) and their actual 'mother' was in their mid to late 40s.

Even the people on here who say that is not what happened with THEIR family. They can NEVER know that for sure!

A few will be in denial, like that would NEVER happen in their family!

Closet, meet the skeleton! 💀

I know very few women who have become mothers (genuinely) past the age of 45-46, maybe only 4 or 5 in my lifetime. But of the ones I HAVE known, there have been issues with the baby/child, from childhood right through to adulthood. There are sooooo many risks. No WAY would I do it. Nope.

OK I'm just about to get my arse in gear and go. I expected mostly 'it's low risk so don't worry' replies!

We definitely don't want another DC. Ours are aged between 22 and 8. DC4 conceived when I was 38 on the first attempt which shocked us both .

Definitely going to have to sort out contraception, which isn't condoms, after this.

The mother of a girl in a dd's year at school got pregnant at around that age. The girl was in the upper sixth and the baby was due at just about the time she was taking her A Levels.
Personally I don't think I'd risk it. Sod's law, and all that....

I could sort of understand it if the pharmacy was an hour's drive away (although I'd still bloody go!) but 15 minutes is nothing!! Even if it's only a small chance, it's still a chance so why risk an unplanned pregnancy in your late 40's out of sheer laziness??

Sorry, OP just seen you're going. Definitely the right call!

Blimey to the poster who said 35 is the upper limit! About 50% of the children I know wouldn’t exist if that was a thing..I was 38 with my youngest & most of my friends didn’t start until mid to late 30’s.

According to the ONS approximately 1 in 5 babies born in 2017 were to mothers in the 35-39 age group, so hardly unusual!

Even with the older democratic “There were 1,578 babies born to mothers aged 45 and over in England in 2009, but in 2015 there were 2,119” This represents 0.3% so unusual...but it happens!

Cherie Blair was 45 when she got pregnant.

Oh and good call OP, with 8 you must be coming out of the wilderness & you’ve done your time!

@chipsandgin

Blimey to the poster who said 35 is the upper limit!

I said FOR ME!

Blimey to posters who cherry pick bits of peoples posts to suit their agenda!

And despite all the claims on mumsnet, about knowing SO many women who give birth to babies in their 40s, it is still a very low percentage overall.

Why do people always peddle it as a really amazing thing to have babies in your 40s???

Not a chance would I ever have a baby in my 40s... As I said, I wouldn't even consider it over 35. Nope.

crazyasafox 35?! You really are crazy.

I’m 37, had unprotected sex once in April. Now 9 weeks pregnant. And it took 2 yrs to conceive my first child when I was early 30s. Sod’s Law.

It's not £35 anymore - £15 from Boots or Superdrug. You can order it online, and you've got 72 hours to take it.

@Gruzinkerbell1

There is nothing crazy about saying I would never want a baby after the age of 35. I am entitled to my OWN OPINION.

But you crack on with the personal insults if it makes you feel better.

I will not stoop as low as you though, and insult you back. I am prepared to accept it's the baby hormones making you rude and offensive to someone who has done nothing wrong, and I shall forgive you.

When is your period? Do you suspect you are ovulating around now/soon?

Mhy colleague thought the same when she was 46. Her son's 11 now, she'll be drawing her pension by the time he finishes uni.

But crazy that isn’t what the OP is asking, she didn’t ask how old you’d like to be when you had your last child, she was asking if it was possible to be pregnant late 40’s.

For goodness sake. I can't see what crazy has said that's so wrong.

There are loads of posts on this thread that aren't about what the OP is asking either, but none of those have been picked up on

Sorry, I wasn’t having a go, I just thought I’d point out that saying ‘35 is the limit’ wasn’t really the information the OP was looking for. Didn’t mean to come over as rude. Lots of people have pointed out that it certainly does happen in late 40’s, I just thought that was more relevant.

One of my friends got pregnant at 46, had her DS at 47. She was delighted but the last ten years have been v. hard work. She definitely finds it harder in her late 50s than when she had her older DC.

Another friend was 44, had baby at 45. It was a huge, not exactly happy, shock for them. They have a healthy DS and love him dearly...but it definitely wasn't what they'd planned for their 50s/60s.

Please get the MAP!

You CBA with a 15 min drive? Better save your energy for another pregnancy and 18+ years of parenting then.

My friend got pregnant at 45 from a one night stand and another friend’s aunt recently had a baby at 50 when she hadn’t had a period for more than a year. I wouldn’t take the chance and I had my last at 42.

I wouldn’t risk it

I am nearly 47 I still have regular periods 28 days and ovulation is the same time on my cycle as it’s always been I think I could become pregnant with higher risks of complications and miscarriage neither which I want

Unless you want another baby is it worth the risk and the chance of heartache

My grandmother had her last baby at 49 - this was not a pretend pregnancy to cover up for her daughters. My nan has spoken of discussing how she could bring on a miscarriage she was desperately unhappy. Of course this did happen and still does

OMG such drama. You have less than a 1% chance of a pregnancy using your own eggs aged 45. www.healthline.com/health/menopause/pregnancy#1

I wouldn't be worried at all. (And I'm 48).

People aren't being dramatic - no one has said that the OP is likely to be pregnant. We're just saying that it's possible, and the 15-minute drive is worth it.

I'm another one with family history of older mothers. My granny would have been in her mid to late 30s when my mother and her older brother were born; then mid 40s when the youngest was born. I'm reading this with some sense of "am I being stupid" as at 45 with 2 teenagers (had my children younger than either my mother or maternal grandmother!), I can no longer rely on a regular cycle to judge the "risks".

This happened to my mum. My sister is 3 years younger than my youngest child. I'd not risk it.

Definitely going to have to sort out contraception, which isn't condoms, after this.

Ah, yeah, good idea.

I don't understand couples - especially couples with four children - who categorically know they don't want any more, faffing about with condoms.

Just send him for the snip, for heaven's sake. You can have as many faff-free quickies as you like. No more driving across town. No more worry.