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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
NewAccount270219 · 15/06/2019 22:56

I am so far from the person who keeps their buggy immaculate (it was second hand anyway so that would have been a lost cause from the off) but I think it's fine if other people want to - I don't think it means they're doing anything awful by not letting their kids eat it in, etc. BUT at the point where you're more concerned about keeping your buggy clean than being kind, that's where you've lost sight of things (and aren't teaching your kids a great lesson, either). Having a go at someone who is struggling over a thing is really quite horrible.

mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 22:56

Hopefully crusty socks will be the worst of it Smile

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:00

well they couldn't have been in it much if their nappies were only ever clean in it. Mines been in for hours at a time, of course they had wees and poos in it.

Who said their nappies were only ever clean? Of course they weren't, but the nappies didn't leak.

And no, they weren't in a pram for hours at a time because they aren't meant to be.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 23:03

And no, they weren't in a pram for hours at a time because they aren't meant to be.

Because you're the perfect parent ....

MeMeMeYou · 15/06/2019 23:04

If my buggy was made all sticky with juice I’dbe stressing about when I’d get chance to wash and dry the covers to use it the next day so I’d be irritated that someone else’s kid had been spraying juice on it tbh. I wouldn’t have expected them to make it right but I’d have possibly accidentally shown my stress as narkiness. If it was just water I’d have not minded so much I’d have sat my kid on something whilst it dried. If I caught my kid doing it I’d have removed the drink off them to limit damage rather than said stop it in case they did it again. I’d have busied their hands with something else. But kids do this stuff and ultimately I’d have acknowledged that

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:05

God help you all when your PFBs become teenagers and you're fishing crusty socks from under the bed.

My children are now adults. Still happy with my choice not to let them eat or drink in the pram or car.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 23:05

Who said their nappies were only ever clean? Of course they weren't, but the nappies didn't leak they'd still be doubly incontinent in it tho, which was the claim that the baby never had been. Anyway, wees and poos can be contained, but not having a baby who vomits all over it is luck not skill

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 23:06

I’d have removed the drink off them to limit damage rather than said stop it in case they did it again OP clearly said she moved DD so she couldn't. She doesn't need to be banned from drinking as a punishment for an accident

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:06

Because you're the perfect parent ....

Err, no, because it isn't good for babies to be in prams for extended periods of time and because toddlers need to be active and not strapped into a buggy for hours on end.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 23:07

My children are now adults. Still happy with my choice not to let them eat or drink in the pram or car.

Bet they think back fondly on that every fucking day .

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 23:07

Anyway, wees and poos can be contained, but not having a baby who vomits all over it is luck not skill

I had this happen to me once, with DD2. That was a nightmare to clean. Yes, if it never happened to you, it was definitely luck and not to do with great parenting. Grin

Macca84 · 15/06/2019 23:08

LJdorothy I honestly feel like someone could post literally anything on AIBU and regardless of how obvious it is that the OP WNBU, they would get told they ABU Grin

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:08

Bet they think back fondly on that every fucking day .

Because being able to eat in their pram is the only marker if a happy childhood????

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 23:09

I honestly feel like someone could post literally anything on AIBU and regardless of how obvious it is that the OP WNBU, they would get told they ABU

Yep, my thoughts exactly.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 23:10

Because being able to eat in their pram is the only marker if a happy childhood????*

Of course not, because they just lioed the regime.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 23:11

*loved

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:14

Oh they did.

Very occasionally, on special high days on holidays, they were allowed to sit in the pram and munch on a piece of dry cracker. Those were the days.

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 23:16

Who said their nappies were only ever clean?

Err, I think you did:

my 2 didn't get doubly incontinent in their pram

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 23:16

LJdorothy I honestly feel like someone could post literally anything on AIBU and regardless of how obvious it is that the OP WNBU, they would get told they ABU

Of course and every aspect of their parenting to be picked on, should've taken drink from child , shouldn't give them juice obviously, should've put nappies on them better, shouldn't let them eat in buggy, shouldn't let them get muddy, should clean them if they do get muddy etc etc

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:40

Goldmandra

I understood "doubly incontinent" to mean that the nappies had leaked onto the pram. Not that everything was contained within the nappy.

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 23:44

@DecomposingComposers

Fair enough but I've worked with adults who are doubly incontinent and I think it's important that it is not understood to mean that you're covered in pee and poo.

Trebla · 15/06/2019 23:46

I would of offered you some help. Rude cow

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 23:47

Goldmandra

And? I'm actually an incontinence nurse. I think I understand the term "doubly incontinent".

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 23:51

I'm actually an incontinence nurse. I think I understand the term "doubly incontinent".

That makes it worse. Maybe you should think a bit more carefully about how you speak about it.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 00:04

That makes it worse. Maybe you should think a bit more carefully about how you speak about it.

What are you even talking about? How have I spoken about it?

Another poster criticised my parenting choice to not let my children eat or drink in the pram by saying that they were doubly incontinent in the pram. I replied that they had worn nappies and so the pram had not been soiled.

Another poster then commented that how had their nappies remained clean - my comment was that the nappies hadn't stayed clean but hadn't leaked.

What exactly have I said that you find so offensive?

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