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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 09:25

boobirdblue

Really? Me saying my kids were breast fed is being sanctimonious and having a dig at mothers who use formula? Ok then.

I shall re write history just to avoid offending anyone who didn't breast feed.

So is no one allowed to mention breast feeding then in case it causes offence? Did I judge anyone for not breast feeding? Did I say one way was better than the other? No. I simply mentioned it, in passing.

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 09:28

Really? Me saying my kids were breast fed is being sanctimonious and having a dig at mothers who use formula? Ok then.

Yep you sound totally sanctimonious. You're acting like you a perfect parent and you're really not.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 09:36

Ok then. I think maybe you are projecting here but there we are.

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 09:38

Ok then. I think maybe you are projecting here but there we are.

Not at all, but you convince yourself that!

Children are children not robots, they sometimes have snacks, they sometimes get thirsty, they sometimes get dirty.... but obviously not on your precious and immaculate buggy, oh no that would never do!

Mitzicoco · 16/06/2019 09:46

I guess OP could have offered to help clean the buggy with wipes etc. Apart from that, it seem like one of these shit things that happen sometimes. (sorry OP if you did offer to clean it, I just can't believe the 17 pages this has generated, and have scanned them but maybe not too thoroughly)

hazeyjane · 16/06/2019 10:00

The op tried to do her best in a difficult situation. Make sure her children were safe, make sure it didn't happen again, apologise and try to offer to clean it up. Short of doing an interpretive dance to express her sorrow and wear a hair shirt as penance....I don't see what else she could have done. Surely, if you were the other person, even if you were annoyed, a little kindness would be better than saying..."that's not good enough". What would "good enough" be?

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:02

Children are children not robots, they sometimes have snacks, they sometimes get thirsty, they sometimes get dirty....

Yes they do. They are snacks out of the pram. They drank in the pram, if they wanted to, but it was water so no issue. They got dirty - we took their boots or shoes off before they went in the pram. They never rolled around in mud or covered head to toe in filth. It really was not a big deal to keep the pram clean.

hazeyjane · 16/06/2019 10:06

decomposing I was just surprised, because surely even an adult continence nurse (do you work with adults with complex needs at all?) must understand that sometimes the "rules" about healthy eating, or where and when you can drink might need to be broken a little....especially where additional needs are a factor. So if it is a struggle to get someone to drink water, then drinking juice or squash is preferable to nothing, if you struggle to drink when you eat, then drinks at other times might be a good idea. Etc.

hazeyjane · 16/06/2019 10:07

....and yes, I realise what you did with your own children. But you can understand, I assume, why others may have to do things differently.

PortiaCastis · 16/06/2019 10:14

God this thread is farcical at times Grin and all over a little squirt of juice
Nobody is perfect and neither are their children because were all human with faults

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 10:15

*Another poster criticised my parenting choice to not let my children eat or drink in the pram by saying that they were doubly incontinent in the pram. I replied that they had worn nappies and so the pram had not been

Yes they do. They are snacks out of the pram. They drank in the pram, if they wanted to, but it was water so no issue. They got dirty - we took their boots or shoes off before they went in the pram. They never rolled around in mud or covered head to toe in filth. It really was not a big deal to keep the pram clean.

@DecomposingComposers* you've made both those statements which one is the truth and which one the lie? It's hard to follow when you change your tune from not allowed to they were allowed?

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 10:27

That part isn't confusing, as Decomposing only ever gave her DC water so it wouldn't have made a mess for them to drink in the buggy.

I am curious about one thing, though. How did you manage picnics with your DC when they were active young toddlers? That must have been tricky, if you wouldn't feed then in the buggy; mine didn't manage in booster seats until they were well over 18 months old. Did you take a high chair with you? Confused

It doesn't have to be messy actually, either; there are some wonderful plastic bibs around that enable you to keep mess to a minimum.

Hotterthanahotthing · 16/06/2019 10:34

Good grief!My DD is 16 and when she was a toddler many a friendly conversation was started with other mums when this kind of thing happened to me or them.
However giving juice in a bottle is unreasonable as it is very bad for teeth.I remember community dental removal under anaesthetic.Taking all or the rotten front teeth out if a child from on 2 upwards was an upsetting job.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:35

hazeyjane

No I didn't work with adults with complex needs. I worked with men who had incontinent post prostatectomy.

With regards to drinking juice etc I said what I did with my children

If you need or want to do it differently that's your choice. Why do you feel the need to judge what I did? You do what you feel is right for your children and I'll do what's right for mine.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:39

Lizzie48

Sorry I don't understand the question about picnics. Why would they need to eat in the pram at a picnic?

We sat on a rug on the ground. Why would they need a highchair or the pram?

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 10:39

If you need or want to do it differently that's your choice. Why do you feel the need to judge what I did? You do what you feel is right for your children and I'll do what's right for mine.

Because you've need judgemental to others, you've changed your story also, so to me you've just come on here to cause a row. More than once you've stated your children did not eat or drink in the buggy, when people pointed out how harsh this is and how the needs of the child should come above the immaculate buggy you said that it was allowed.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 10:41

Because young toddlers won't sit still. Mine wouldn't have done anyway, not under 2 years old.

hazeyjane · 16/06/2019 10:42

I don't judge what you did at all decomposing, but your posts implied that you did judge others or at least couldnt see the readons why a parent might let their children drink juice in the buggy between meals. As a continence nurse I assumed you would understand those reasons.

If I misinterpreted, I apologise.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:44

Honestly I think you are reading different posts.

Where have I changed my story? They didn't eat in the pram. They only drank water so that wouldn't have mattered if they drank whilst in the pram because it wouldn't make a mess. I can't even remember them drinking in the pram because they usually had milk and only really had water with meals.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 10:47

I was being facetious about the high chair, I obviously know you didn't do that. (You clearly have a sense of humour bypass.) But I could never have just placed either of my DDs on a rug at that age and expected them to sit still. It wouldn't have happened.

We wouldn't have been able to take them on a picnic. Not before the age of two and a half. With DD1 anyway, it might just about have worked with DD2.

If you had perfect toddlers that would sit still before 2 years old, then you definitely don't have a clue what it's like to have a child with SN and you're in no position to be judgemental.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:47

hazeyjane

I took my dentist's advice which was to not give juice, only water. His view was if you have to give juice you give it in a cup and only at meal times because otherwise the teeth are constantly bathed in sugar.

Maybe parents have to make other choices and that's for them to weigh up the pros and cons.

We chose not to do that and our children happily drank water so that wasn't an issue for us.

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 10:48

@DecomposingComposers ate wafers? Or didn't eat in the pram? You've stated both.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:50

Lizzie48

Why do you assume we had perfect toddlers? We were having a picnic - of course they could get up and wander around. Then they would sit and eat and then wander around again. I really don't get the issue.

yomommasmomma · 16/06/2019 10:50

Some of the posts about this are mad!!! This was an accident and it was a toddler. The OP apologised, the buggy owner is clearly bonkers!! She should have said "no worries at all" wiped it off her buggy and carried on with her day. Total madness....

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:50

ate wafers

Ate wafers? What are you talking about?

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