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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

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boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:24

@magicfarawaytrees agreed.

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 21:29

I guess the sarcasm flew right over there Grin

TeamUnicorn · 15/06/2019 21:32

I had no poo/wee explosions in the pram/buggy - just didn't happen.

Some of the things said about the other Mum are just dreadful, we have no idea why she reacted like she did - and in every other thread people would be pointing out that tone and mannerisms can be misinterpreted, maybe she misread the OP's tone and mannerisms?

OP don't dwell on it, some days are hard, some days are harder for others, we have no way of knowing. Tomorrow is another day and all that.

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 21:33

Totally agree with every word teamunicorn

mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 21:44

Well, my 2 didn't get doubly incontinent in their pram, didn't spill drink or food in it, didn't make it messy or dirty. We just cleaned them up before they got in the pram and they didn't eat in there.

If you parented differently then that's great. It's your choice.

LOL.

Parenting and choices is what keeps toddlers and small children from poonamis and spitting up/vomiting in a buggy?

I have now officially heard it all.

Babies are doubly incontinent until they learn to use the loo, FYI.

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 21:48

Babies are doubly incontinent until they learn to use the loo, FYI.

And they tend to wear nappies.

The choices part referred to choosing to let them eat and drink in the pram, or choosing to put them in the pram when they are muddy. They are choices.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:58

And they tend to wear nappies.

Obviously the better mad about possessions parents make eye the nappies don't leak!

The choices part referred to choosing to let them eat and drink in the pram, or choosing to put them in the pram when they are muddy. They are choices.*

Obviously the buggy being exacting cleanliness and the immaculate state of the buggy comes above the need for your child to just get in it? You'll stand and wipe them, wash them, not allow juice obviously, raise them to put possessions above all else.

Or you could just allow them to be children and not worry that a 2 year old spilt a drink, 3 year old have a potty training accident etc in the fabulous, immaculate, £1800 buggy.

Just a thought.

mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 22:08

So you can choose to have a baby who doesn't vomit or spit up?
Clearly I should have got up earlier to join that queue.

I also missed the memo where the importance of nappies as a way to stop poo getting into clothing and onto buggies was discussed. It's too late for me now, but maybe when I have grandchildren I can tell my DDs and DILs all about these wonder nappies.

I occasionally took my charges and children to places like the zoo or to the nearest big city and we all had a lovely time and lost nobody, nor did we end up fishing anyone out of the water features or chasing anyone to avoid a tragic traffic accident precisely because the youngest was safely in his or her buggy for at least four hours, happily eating, drinking, and snoozing.

Seriously, buggies are designed to be washed, hosed down, scrubbed or simply left out in the rain where nature can see to any necessary cleaning.

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 22:19

And again, good for you.

I didn't want my children to eat or drink in the pram. They are sitting at a table, they didn't need to be grazing constantly. And no, they didn't drink juice, they drank water. You know, in line with healthy eating guidelines.

I didn't want to buy a new pram after each baby so we looked after it and kept it clean. I'm sorry that offends you so much.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 22:20

I think you should have made more fuss, eg told her off sharply then cleaned the buggy you missed out the 20 month old you'd have either left out of their buggy. But nice there's a bit of performance parenting in there to tell the kid off just for the benefit of the watching parent.

daisydoooo · 15/06/2019 22:23

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SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 22:34

Well, my 2 didn't get doubly incontinent in their pram well they couldn't have been in it much if their nappies were only ever clean in it. Mines been in for hours at a time, of course they had wees and poos in it. He's four, he occasionally still poos in his nappy in the buggy. Aren't I a terrible parent.

hazeyjane · 15/06/2019 22:36

Cloth nappies actually do contain even the worst poonamis!

Not here they didn't, jesus, what dd2 produced couldn't be contained...it was a force of nature.

Teddybear45 · 15/06/2019 22:36

You are a terrible parent for leaving kids in a pooey nappy for hours. Your poor kids!

User8888888 · 15/06/2019 22:36

This thread is a fascinating insight into human nature. I’m in the ‘it’s a bit of juice/ get over it’ camp. Even if I might be a bit narked, kids do annoying things and juice is one of the least offensive things that could be split and quick wipe with a wet wipe would sort it out.

Also for what it’s worth, I’ve got a bugaboo and one of the perks is the fact that everything is washable. Mine is in pretty good nick and it cleans up well but I’ve never tried to keep it pristine. For those that have kept their buggies immaculate, how does that work with suncream?

Alsohuman · 15/06/2019 22:37

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Alsohuman · 15/06/2019 22:38

Wrong thread.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 22:38

I had no poo/wee explosions in the pram/buggy - just didn't happen lick not judgement though isn't it. Sometimes nappies leak. Sometimes babies vomit. Sometimes you're having a nice hot chocolate in the coffee shop and the baby spews green vom all over the nice pushchair

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 22:45

And no, they didn't drink juice, they drank water. You know, in line with healthy eating guidelines.

My 2 DDs had water, too, but that was because it was all they would drink at that age, and that's still true of DD1.

Whereas my DSis's DC wouldn't drink water at all, so she gave them orange squash. Isn't it better to give them something to drink than let them get dehydrated? And I know a lot of mums who have that problem. You can't force a child to drink water if they don't want to.

User8888888 · 15/06/2019 22:45

Oh and on poonamis, we never got them in the buggy (note our marvellous parenting). We got them in the car seat though on multiple occasions, especially prior to 6 months. Clearly, we were making bad parenting choices with our newborns....

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 22:45

didn't want my children to eat or drink in the pram. They are sitting at a table, they didn't need to be grazing constantly. And no, they didn't drink juice, they drank water. You know, in line with healthy eating guidelines.

Mine are loads at the table, sometimes picnics in the park, sometimes on my knee un a cafe, sometimes in their buggy when in a packed park. I always disliked the overly strict parents that insisted on at the table and don't talk while you eat, must eat everything, don't spill anything. Avoided those parents like the plague. Preferred to bring my children up with a fee and easy life if we can sit on grass and have a picnic or whatever.

I didn't want to buy a new pram after each baby so we looked after it and kept it clean. I'm sorry that offends you so much.*

Never had to buy a new pram, just washed and wiped the existing one.

It's no wonder that we're raising a generation of OCD people with this type of parenting vet zealous parenting.

Oh and call social services about giving my child weak juice instead of water, whilst your encouraging OCD!

TeamUnicorn · 15/06/2019 22:45

What I didn't add is that any liquids shooting out of an orifice were directed at me instead.

But the buggy stayed clean Wink

lhastingsmua · 15/06/2019 22:47

I understand both of your reactions.

From your side, you obviously don’t find your own child unhygienic/gross etc, you think it’s just a bit of juice, you had your hands full etc

However I can also see why she would be annoyed, she may have actually found it unhygienic/gross. I personally wouldn’t be happy about some random child squirting something out of their bottle on my property quite nasty/filthy. I wouldn’t like random kids touching my things with their grubby hands either, it’s unfortunate but just how I feel. She wasn’t to know about your daughter’s possible special needs, she was just reacting out of anger really. From her perspective, she may have not seen you telling her off but rather just carrying on as you were and thought that you weren’t watching your children appropriately.

In your position I would probably let her rant and pay her no mind, nothing you could say would have stopped her from ranting in the moment really

TeamUnicorn · 15/06/2019 22:47

Oh crap, user has just reminded me of the car seat poonami, in the car park of the premier Inn.

I had tried to erase it from memory.

LJdorothy · 15/06/2019 22:52

This is one of the weirdest threads I've ever read on Mumsnet. The lack of empathy some people are showing towards a mum who was struggling with two small children, one with SN, because for them, a little bit of juice on their immaculate buggy would be world ending. God help you all when your PFBs become teenagers and you're fishing crusty socks from under the bed.

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