To complain about a thoughtless comment by supermarket worker?

[Sophiafaith63]

I was shopping with my daughter today and came across a lady giving out yogurt samples.

She asked if my daughter would like a sample then asked when her brother/sister was due! As I am not pregnant this was a very hurtful comment. I said I did not think that was a question you should put to a lady hoping she'd take the hint to leave the subject alone. However she then asked the same question again! I said I was not pregnant and repeated that this was not something you should say to a lady. Instead of an apology, she said it was just the way I was standing!

I was really upset by this and really want send an email to head office asking for this lady to be given training on how to speak to customers

Would this be reasonable or should I just let this one go as thoughtless rather than rude? Maybe I should toughen up but this really upset me.

What do you want to achieve?

She made a mistake. She was just trying to make conversation. Let it go.

dear god.

Is there a backstory here that you were a shoplifter smuggling a few kilos of beef out under your jumper.

Someone once did that to me at work (she was a nasty cow but that's a whole other thread)

I just laughed in her face and walked away

Let it go. Happened to me the other day. It’s annoying and rude but not worth stressing about

You’d have to wonder how some people get through the day

HeresMe

Let it go. And maybe it’s a wake up call to loose some of the tummy fat.

Ooh, let me devise and run the training course.

'How to Speak to Customers 101'

1. Don't mention pregnancy. To anyone.

I'm available to run courses for the knocked down price of ££££. Sign here.

The embarrassment she felt is punishment enough.

If she had said it once and dropped it, I'd have let it go. It was just that after I tried to turn her attention from it,

She won't work for the supermarket, she will be from an outside company. Earning about £7.84 per hour.

It's happened to me before. It's embarrassing sure but just let it go. She didn't actually mean any harm & was just trying to make small talk.

Its upsetting, I know, its happened to me.
It doesnt sound as if it was malicious.
I'd let it go.
Would you feel comfortable if instead of giving her training they just let her go?
People giving out free samples are rarely employed by the store and it's likely that they would just be dropped by the agency they work for

If she had said it once and dropped it, I'd have let it go. It was just she didnt even apologise for saying something rude. I was really upset by it which is why I was considering making a complaint.

Clearly I should just accept its fine to be insulting to customers .

God thats horrid. I remember being asked if i was having another by someone nodding at my 6 month post baby tummy. If you feel better make the complaint. Id probably plan to and write an email in my head and not get round to it!!

It was thoughtless, not deliberately intended to insult you.

Let it go. You’re projecting your own insecurities on to someone who meant no harm.

She obviously didn’t understand your first reference that it was something you shouldn’t say to a lady.

She didn’t deliberately insult you.

I understand why it might be upsetting but quite honestly a lot of women that are pregnant don’t look particularly large and sometimes a specific style of top or the way your holding yourself can give the impression that you might be. I’ve wondered about women myself but thankfully, never felt the need to comment. It’s an easy mistake to make though, especially if you’re not the kind of person that second guesses yourself.

I don’t know exactly what you would achieve by complaining. Would it make you feel any better? Wouldn’t it be more beneficial to help yourself be more resilient when awkward situations like this arise?

Yep, she was rude 3 times, so definitely complain.

1. Asking DD when bro/sis is due - you said you are not pregnant
2. Asked you if you were pregnant - you said you were not and she shouldn't ask
3. She didn't apologise and blamed it on you (the way you were standing)

So three strikes and you're out in my book. Complain.

She obviously didn’t understand your first reference that it was something you shouldn’t say to a lady.

She would have known by lady OP was referring to herself unless. Nice pass ag insult there though.

What do you want them to do?
I have IBS, my belly bloats to the point I look hugely pregnant and I've been asked many times when it's due. Never took offence, just people making conversation. I find it quite funny but clearly that's just me

Do you look pregnant?

It wasn’t an insulting thing to say, op. You are choosing to feel insulted; that’s not her problem, it’s yours.