Fascinating thread. So, basically we teach little girls to have boundaries about their own bodies, and that they have the right to decide who has what access to it, but - for some posters on here - as soon as they’re adults they’re not allowed boundaries at all?
Has it not always been like that?
At least we manage to do better by children nowadays. Mostly...
But if adult women say something about their boundaries?
They're too sensitive. or demonise men. Or are traumatised and therefore overreacting (or hysterical).
Or just don't understand why they should be ok with these... impositions. It's very.... 'oh, you may feel uncomfortable. But there are reasons. Which you're simply incapable of understanding'.
People (children, women, men) should not have to justify boundaries when it comes to their physical integrity. which includes privacy in spaces that are meant for them / places meant for people in specific physical and medical circumstances (pregnancy, breast-feeding are imo good examples).
For the most likely somewhat rare case of a woman needing her male carer or partner there for physical reasons? I am not categorically against making exceptions on a case by case basis.
But exceptions are exceptions... Not blanket permissions that cover anyone for every not evidently objectionable reason.
Anyhow. I have commented yesterday and sort of let this thread... marinate (mentally,I suppose.)
I'm currently on my lunch break and... Idk. thinking about the many times I have been given to understand that my needs and desires are secondary pissed me off.a tiny little bit... So yeah. I hope my comment still made sense (even though it was a bit of a rambly rant.)
The amount of time I've held my tongue because it wasn't polite...is actually staggering.
And the weird thing is... I'm usually not particularly shy or restrained. but when it concerns my own privacy and space?