to be abit peeved that DS age10 on sleepover -

[bamboowarrior]

was allowed to watch a 15cert film without the parent checking in with me first?

what age do you allow your kids to watch 12cert and 15cert and 18 cert films? wouldn't you, out of courtesy, check in with the parents first?

As far as alcohol goes, I must admit I did serve alcohol at my son's 11th birthday grown-up (a.k.a. you're not getting a party bag) disco party - I made about 10 pints of fruit punch and added - gasp! - one can of shandy containing less than 2% alcohol. Then I told them all to go easy on the punch because it did have a bit of alcohol in it! When we ran out, I made some more without the shandy - didn't stop half of them feeling and acting 'really drunk' though!

I really wouldn't care. But I know that other parents can be quite strict about this and so I certainly wouldn't let someone else's 10 yr old watch a cert 15 in my house without asking their parents first. Once they're teenagers I think it matters much less, but there is quite a big difference between being 10 and being 15.

I watched Nightmare on elm street at 12 and i couldnt sleep kept thinking freddy was going to get me-yo9u have no idea the effect films have on kids

I wont even watch IT now and im 44

A "friend" of mine has done this twice. Showed an R 18+ movie to my 10 year old (now 11). The first time I spoke to her about it and assumed she wouldn't do it again. After the second time I decided to no longer allow the situation and they don't have sleepovers anymore. My son doesn't want them anyway for other reasons unrelated.

My biggest objection/confusion is that she is extremely strict with screentime in general and doesn't usually allow her child to watch 13+ tv shows or allow video games and makes a huge deal of it otherwise. Just last night her son and her were at my house and she refused to let her son watch a 13+ tv show (the office) and she made a huge deal about it. I challenged her (not in a hugely confrontational way) and stating that 18 + movies were allowed at sleepovers but 13+ tv shows weren't allowed now. She just brushed me off.

It's so contradictory. Plus she comes across as super-smug which is equally annoying

As a general rule, I wouldn't.

Exceptions would be if the kid spends a lot of time in our house, if I'd seen the movie, or if my DC had watched similar movies while in their house.

Also sort of depends on the kind of sleepover. A party of kids sleeping over where the movie needs to be suitable for all is different to having one kid sleep over when you know the child and parents quite well.

@Cruelstepmother then what was the point of making a bunch of 10 year olds (as not all would have been 11) think that they were having alcohol and associating it with a grown up fun party? That's a big part of why earlier drinking is associated with earlier problem drinking later. You don't know their families - mine is littered with alcoholics and I'd be absolutely fuming.

Frankly, showing a 15 film to a 10 year old is way less problematic!

@Cruelstepmother - As far as alcohol goes, I must admit I did serve alcohol at my son's 11th birthday grown-up (a.k.a. you're not getting a party bag) disco party

So the choice is either a party bag or alcohol? That is some screwed up thinking. The level is alcohol is irrelevant. The problem is the fact you felt it necessary to introduce the notion that once they get past the age of childish things, such as party bags, the logical step is moving on to alcohol. Attitudes like this result in children experimenting with alcohol at an inappropriately young age, as it is seen as grown-up and something they should be doing.

I would not be impressed if my ds was at that party. Not because of the level of alcohol in the punch but because of the attitude and mindset that you displayed. I would certainly not trust you as they got older.

OMG getting in alcopops for 13 year olds is so wrong morally and from a health perspective. If my dd was staying over at yours I’d be reporting you for supplying booze to a child.

It wouldn’t upset me if my dad saw a 15 film but I would always parents if it was ok first.

Ds not dad! I don’t care what my dad sees!

Half the Harry Potter movies are rated 13.
I would always err on the side of caution as a host.
As a teacher, with my Yr 7 tutor group, I've ever shown them any clips or movies that are over a 12 certificate.

I hope your the same with games on the PlayStations and stuff aswell as many of them are much worse then films that's why kids don't even flitch at horrors anymore lol. Also age rating are more like guidelines the parents might have looked at the back which tells you why they are rated. I would sespect a bit of lauguage and some fight scenes they ain't going to mind putting on for a 10 year old

Yanbu. That’s out of order. I would check a 12a with the parents of another 10 year old, let alone a 12 or god forbid a 15. Not cool. Some kids are more sensitive than they seem, and some 15s are really inappropriate. I once watched Deadpool with my 15 and 13 year old because the younger of the two is a keen comic fan. It was a 15 and full of really porny sex. They have. ratings for a reason.

I was astonished when my 8 yr d dd was left to watch Dirty Dancing (15) on a sleepover with her younger friend. Apparently it is one of the films that friend is allowed to watch whenever she wants. It would never have occurred to me to mention that I would not want my child watching a film with a botched illegal abortion, a teenager losing her virginity and a young man who basically makes money by having sex with older women as the main plot lines. We know the parents pretty well and it just cross my mind for 1 second that dd would see anything inappropriate in their house.

Didn’t cross my mind even

How hard is it with WhatsApp group chats to ask parents nowadays ?? I was not happy with parents allowing alcohol at 12/13 and 15/18 movies. It’s not their choice to decide what’s right for other people’s kids. Parents ought to bother to communicate about the order of the day to make sure everyone is happy rather than just assume.

No way! The Ring is a 15, it might not have loads of gore but psychologically is much worse.

The other parents are def out of order, I wouldn't be impressed at my dd watching a 15 rating at 10yo. She is 13yo now and is only allowed to watch 15s that I've already vetted!

I'd be livid if anyone gave her alcohol, totally inappropriate.

My dd has a hidden SEN that would not be known to other parents or even her friends. A scary movie or alcohol could be traumatising for her.

Whoever posted about the human caterpillar 😵 horrific, I would consider showing that to a child as child abuse.

I bet it's suicide squad

Should have asked. They are not your ds parents.

Personally for my kids, general rule of thumb, a couple of years under certificate
Depending on the film / game

Not on parents are very different and you should respect you might think its OK for your kids but other people may not think it

As they were the parent of another/other children they don't get to make that decision personally l always follow the recommendations of the government censor.

I wouldn’t let someone else’s child watch a film with a rating without getting a parent’s permission. My 8 year old recently went to a sleep over and the mum asked whether he could watch a 12a. I would do the same. However, I think some of the comments on here are ridiculous. Many 12a films are suitable for much younger children. Many of the PG films that I watched as a child would be a 12a now. Some people really do need to engage their brain regarding this. We always check the reviews of 12a films before taking out 5 and 8 year old to see them.

I don’t think that’s ok and I’d be annoyed too. I did show kids movie that were too old for them but only after researching them and checking with other parents.

Serving alcohol to young teens at parties is dumb even if it’s in small amounts.

‘The Human Catterpillar’

YANBU. My 11 yr old dd came home from a new friend's house very scared, having watched a 15 film. Parents both at home, one a headteacher