Was I rude...talking during movie

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This is so absolutely stupid. We are both in our fifties....new friends through work and both a bit lonely I would say and both looking for new friends. And it is seems to be so hard to make new friends in this age group. I don't know why it should be so hard.....but I don't want this opportunity to pass me by.
We went and say rocketman today. She is a big Elton john fan...me not so much but looking forward to the movie though. Our first move together.
To no drip feed... I am someone who thinks that when you are out in public your ultimate goal is not to have everyone have to think about you. I.e. your presence is mostly unnoticed.
In the movie from the moment it started she began commenting. I ignored and didn't respond. She just kept talking. All through the movie....comments about her favourite songs...she knew this was a difficult part of his life.... wasn't the acting so good. It did not stop. I ignored all of it. And she did not stop. I never turned my head....just ignored it all.
But after the movie finished.....still in the cinema..... she said well goodbye I am going now. And walked off. Obviously not happy with me.
Im lost. I want a new friend. But do I want a new friend who talks all through a movie. I am just like what the hell. Is it me.I really don't know.

I’d probably have said something like “ooh let’s talk after it’s finished love” and smiled, then ignored further comments.

She sounds super annoying talking like that all the way they!

She was really rude and probably annoying lots of people not just you. This is the sort of chat you have after the movie not during.

Have you looked at Meet Up, lots of people on there looking to share their interests.

Instead of ignoring her you could have said “sorry, I can’t talk and concentrate, can we discuss after?” Or whispered back “it’s so good, can’t wait to talk after”.

You just ignored her. Why?

She was rude. An odd quiet comment now and then is ok, but the rest if the cinema don’t want to hear a running commentary.

People talking in the cinema really annoys me, I have mental health issues though that make me hyper vigilant that means every sound/phone light going on needs to be weighed up for threat.

But people used to be chucked out for talking in films. People who talk in cinemas are rude and inconsiderate you don’t need friends like these

Oh god no YWNBU. I don't understand what is wrong with people who do this. The fact that she carried on (but had clearly understood you were trying to ignore her because she was pissed off) suggests she's a PITA.

By all means invite her out again but just avoid cinemas or shows.

Lucky she wasn’t next to my sister. She would have told her off for being noisy.

I hate it when people talk through films, plays, concerts etc - it’s exceptionally rude for someone to think everyone else wants to hear their running commentary.

I have a friend who does it. I generally just nod, smile - look at them and engage in a non-verbal way but say nothing. She knows she shouldn’t be talking and so I can get away with smiling and putting a finger to my lips at some point if she is getting too loud and I’ve noticed people around us are getting angry. I don’t know how she hasn’t got us thrown out before.

With this, is there anyway you feel you could talk to her about what happened. Maybe you could say you would have loved to have had a chat and a coffee or drink after the film to discuss it but you were concerned about talking during the film as you didn’t want to disturb the people around you and you prefer not to talk during a film. Finish it by saying you hope she isn’t offended and that you’d like to meet up again as you’d like to stay friends.

People who talk during movies at the cinema drive me absolutely BONKERS. It’s the main reason I let my Cineworld Unlimited card lapse as there were so many plebs who treated the auditorium like it was their front room.

So. rude.

I think you were rude to blatantly ignore her. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging and giving her a nod or a smile or just mouthing/whispering "oh yeah me too".

I will be honest when I see a film I might lean in and make a comment, if she kept talking then yes very annoying but you could of just been polite about it.

I always think cinema is a hard one for a first time outing. Whether it's a romantic or platonic thing, you don't get to talk properly until the end, so the time where you would talk she just walked off. Had you just been nice and entertained it she probably wouldn't have just gone when the film finished.

I'm sure you could invite her for coffee and explain what happened, new friendships are hard and everyone has pet peeves, she just doesn't know that one of yours is you don't like commentary during the cinema but if she does and you want to be mates you have to compromise or be tactful?

She was rude but so were you.

Thought your AIBU was were you rude talking and was going to absolutely yes! This has not changed she was definitely rude!!

And by the way it’s not you!

She sounds like a 'me me me'. Wanted to brag about how much she knows about Elton John and if I'm honest I think someone like that will be like that about other things in life. I'd not mourn her friendship.See it as an escape.

Christ I would have shushed her. Like I can understand a 'Oh I love this song!' comment slipping out but not running commentary.

Talking in the cinema is not on.
Ignoring a new friend is not really on either, so I can kind of see why she was upset.
I would contact her and tell her you have difficulty hearing when there is loud music, so apologise if you missed any of the conversation.
If she suggests going to the pictures again, agree ahead of time that you will have a coffee and chat about it afterwards.
(Also, Rocketman was great)

Very rude, people like that woman are the reason I just stopped going to the cinema combined with endless eating and Mobile phones being taken out.

As soon as first comment was said I would have given a yes or no comment and said wait to speak after the film has finished.

Although talking during the film is annoying, I think you were very rude to just ignore your friend.

She would have driven me nuts.

You don't talk at the cinema you should of said shush after a couple of times surly she knows cinema etiquette? If I was sat near you both I would of told you off .

I would have shushed her !

You were also very rude

I'd have also said something like "let's talk after the movie. We could go for coffee and sandwich".

The talking is really annoying but if she's also struggling for friendship and you were ignoring her she probably carried on through trying too hard.
You clearly had no indication of bad behaviour and like her or you wouldn't have agreed to go out in the first place!

Hmm that would have driven me insane. Hate talkers. One reason I won't go to anything (concerts / cinema) with MIL because she just doesn't stop.