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Was I rude...talking during movie

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Lotuslots · 09/06/2019 08:33

This is so absolutely stupid. We are both in our fifties....new friends through work and both a bit lonely I would say and both looking for new friends. And it is seems to be so hard to make new friends in this age group. I don't know why it should be so hard.....but I don't want this opportunity to pass me by.
We went and say rocketman today. She is a big Elton john fan...me not so much but looking forward to the movie though. Our first move together.
To no drip feed... I am someone who thinks that when you are out in public your ultimate goal is not to have everyone have to think about you. I.e. your presence is mostly unnoticed.
In the movie from the moment it started she began commenting. I ignored and didn't respond. She just kept talking. All through the movie....comments about her favourite songs...she knew this was a difficult part of his life.... wasn't the acting so good. It did not stop. I ignored all of it. And she did not stop. I never turned my head....just ignored it all.
But after the movie finished.....still in the cinema..... she said well goodbye I am going now. And walked off. Obviously not happy with me.
Im lost. I want a new friend. But do I want a new friend who talks all through a movie. I am just like what the hell. Is it me.I really don't know.

OP posts:
Pinkyyy · 10/06/2019 10:23

I have never been thrown out of a cinema. I don't sit in absolute silence, I whisper something to my accompaniment probably a couple of times during the film. There is absolutely no problem with that.

BuckingFrolics · 10/06/2019 10:40

I think it would be worth following up with her - you were both moving towards a friendship and my god they are hard to make at any age, so not to be thrown away lightly.

I have a friend who I love and have known forever. She annoys me and I annoy her. In the grand scheme of things it does not matter. No one is perfect.

Your new friend will be thinking how rude you were to her, but you have a rational explanation for your behaviour in your head. And doubtless she has one e in hers, for her talking through the film.

Be kind, be curious, own your own stuff. Call her, say that evening didn't go as you'd both hoped, and you'd like to talk with her about what your differences are regarding cinema, as you want to be able to spend time with her in the future.

Please don't judge and execute the friendship so quickly. When you're 10 years older which would you rather - a friend who you can reminisce with about that day it all went wrong at the cinema, or a feeling of regret that you didn't do more to keep the friendship.

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