To not offer my bedroom to guests?

[Tigger0902]

Hi all,
I’m a newbie first of all so hello!
My OH moved into my apartment around 7 months ago. He has some close friends who we go out to dinner etc with and we stay at their house sometimes. They have a 3 bed house, I have a 2 bed flat. They stayed at mine a little over a year ago and I set them up in the spare room. I should add it’s a double room, I have a day bed and trundle in there so plenty of space.
On Tuesday I got a text from my OH saying he had invited them over this weekend and asked if we should offer our room. I replied and said NO to which he said “I already have”. I’ve made it clear I’m not happy about a) him doing this without talking to me about it and b) other people sleeping in my room or my bed.

Am I being unreasonable? I bought a 2 bed so I could have guests stay....in the spare room! And to make things worse, they’re not even the type to say “are you sure you don’t us staying in your room?”

@MorningRichie Wow, you must be having a really shit day to get so worked up about a complete stranger's comment (on someone else's thread). Chill out. Or don't. I really don't care.

It's bad etiquette to come on and not even bother reading the OP's updates. Fair enough if you don't want to read all the comments, but you really should scroll through for the highlighted posts so that when you comment, it's relevant. Very annoying when someone comes on after pages and pages and thinks their comment is super helpful despite being totally out of date!

Agree it’s poor form not even reading OP’s comments @GreenFingersWouldBeHandy but @MorningRichie’s response was a bit OTT

Glad it’s sort of sorted OP! You did well

Richie...that was unnecessarily snarly.
Not everyone reads through threads...it’s not like there’s a rule. The comment was redundant by the time it was made but it was well intentioned and caused no harm. You could have ignored it.
Relax.

It's bad etiquette to come on and not even bother reading the OP's updates.

oh get over yourself, people miss a page or some posts when there are 300 messages, who cares. Does it really matter if you think one post is completely irrelevant? You are not the thread police, just ignore it and move on.

“Who's worked up. I'm not the one who decided to offer advice to so.eone who has already sorted it. I'm just someone who can, you know, read a thread before commenting instead of being someone who thinks they're so important that they must offer advice to someone who doesn't have an issue anymore.‘

You’re worked up. That’s who.

now you just need a good answer for the "can you pick up...." if you go to theirs again.

As you're walking upstairs loudly tell them about the sexual escapades you had in your bed last night and sorry for any spillages, or the spare bed is freshly changed... ;)

Ffs RTFT Theyve been and gone

Why do so many on this thread have uncomfortable sofa beds? misses point of thread

I’ve managed to get out of going the last couple of times (both legitimate reason that turned out to be perfect excuses)...not sure how long I can keep it for though 😂

Why do you need an excuse? Just tell them you're not able to make it.

very odd , will you make them leave the room as you get dressed as your cloths are in your bedroom?

Why is it a problem that they brought their own snacks?

I think it’s your OH that’s the (possibly rather clumsy) CF, it was he who offered your bedroom rather than them demanding it.

And he stayed at their house every week and didn’t think to contribute anything so they had to ask him to bring stuff.

That’s if I understand correctly.

It sounds as though you just don’t like them.

Why do so many on this thread have uncomfortable sofa beds?

I think it's because their functions are incompatible, like shampoo and conditioner, and it's always the bed bit that's less good.