Friend used my husband’s name for her baby

[Ifonly86]

Name change to post this as it could be outing.
My husband and I were ttc before he sadly passed away from an undetected heart problem 18 months ago.
I’m still finding it hard to come to terms with and I have had no support mentally or emotionally. We have one child a girl aged 3. We planned to call our first son after him if we ever had a boy. Of course this never happened.
My best friend of 15 years has just given birth to her son this morning and announced his name as being my husbands name.
I’m finding this so difficult all I have done today is cry, even in front of customers at work so I had to be sent home. It feels very insensitive of her as she knows how special the name is to me and I don’t know how I can move on from this. It wasn’t brought up during her pregnancy, she told me the name she’d picked for a girl but said she didn’t have one for a boy, I now assume she just hid the truth.
I congratulated her and casually ask why the name choice, she completely ignored me and changed the subject. I don’t think I have the strength to see her and meet her son or watch him grow up.
Just to clarify she did know my husband during the 8 years we had been together and was my maid of honour at our wedding, she knew we were ttc and planned to use his name if we had a son, the name is also in the top 20 so I understand I will come across it often.
Aibu to end this friendship? Am I being too sensitive?

So glad comments have made you feel better. I hope she reads this and knows how awful people think she is. I'm still shocked at her behaviour.

I didn’t think she was wrong for using the name in the first instance but her response to you is very wrong. That is very upsetting, I can’t understand why she is being so callous.

My best friend of 15 years has just given birth to her son this morning and announced his name as being my husbands name.

I don't understand why people thought it was OK to use the name without talking about it.

It was the posters friend of 15 years who knew her plans if she hadn't lost her Husband. A close friend (well mine wouldn't) be such a heartless twat.

How awful OP, I’m so sorry Sounds like you’re well shot of this so-called “friend”. What a horrible way to behave.

I'm sorry this turned out just as I suspected.

This horrible woman will get karma in the end hopefully.

It's better to know who your real friends are rather than have frenemies like her.

OP, of course you feel lighter having spoken to her, you no longer have an absolute Viper as a friend.

Her husband will also have been given pause for thought knowing that his wife could do something so viciously unkind.

He'll have it confirmed to him when ye are no longer friends.

I wish you the very best.

@Ifonly86 she's not a friend :( I'm sorry your fears were confirmed.

I'm so sorry you have now found out your friend's true nature . That's a lot on top of dealing with the loss of your DH. I hope you have RL support

Initially I would have said you were being a little unreasonable, but understandably so and your friend possibly didn't know how to tell you that this was their chosen name hence radio silence.

However; Your last post has completely blown that out of the water. Your friend is a callous bitch and I truly hope she never loses someone as close to her as her husband. I suspect after a year and a half she probably felt you should be 'over' losing your DH, not thinking at all how devastating it would have been, especially with so sudden and unexpected a loss.

I hope you have other friends and family who you can rely on and think no more of this person who has been so cruel.