How to motivate a v chatty boy in class to stop chatting?

[Thelowquietsea]

DS, 8, Y3 is a wonderful soul but just very chatty. He is always talking, always asking questions - which is great, of course, but not when he's in class.

This year he has a fabulous teacher. I think she is just great. However, she and I have had loads of chats about DS who she says is just very chatty at the wrong time. WHilst he's not alone, he's a regular. He's academic v strong, in the top few in the class - she says that whilst he can pick things up after listening half an ear - he's talking to others who need to really listen. So it's really disruptive from that POV as well.

She's done everything - carrot/stick/moving him, talking to him - I feel we've done everything - reward/talk about respect regularly/incentives/punishment/ on and on and on from term 1.

Nothing changes. Or if it does, it's for a short time.

I don't know what to do! It's so annoying. Before anyone wades in with does he have SEN - No, he doesn't at all. He just seems to lack self-control. Or he doesn't WANT it enough or to please me enough!

Aagh. I know he'll grow up and hopefully improve, but any thoughts or tips on how to change this around would be welcome.

I find all these latter posts rather cringing and as if a small, self-congratulatory group has started

If you’re still reading OP, I agree.

I don't have advice but my son is the same. He is also 8. Weve had this problem since I he started school and it never goes away. We've tried everything. He can control it but it's almost like tourettes he says it's bursting to come out of him. I know he gets on the teachers nerves and probably everyone else's too and I can't see it getting any better unless somehow he magically stops one day. I'm praying for a miracle

The discussion isn't entirely focused on your DS but rather on a wider problem of which his behavior (and that of the other classmates you have mentioned) is a part because there are millions of kids exhibiting this behavior up and down the land and it is part of a pattern.
I agree.
The 'chatty' label is often used euphemistically.

I think the OP wants to back the school, but do agree that there is an impression of wiggle room both from her and the teacher (in my opinion).
The OP said herself she wants to nip it in the bud and I think she's right because by secondary what's 'nice bit chatty' in primary is no longer nice and chatty. In fact it quickly becomes 'rude and highly disruptive'.

I don't think people are being self-congratulatory at all. I think they are commenting based on their own experiences and offering their insights into the situation or similar situations because the OP has, theoretically, sought opinions and advice.

For example, my opinion as a teacher is that the class teacher is probably being too lenient and ongoing leniency with this group of boys has reinforced the idea that this behaviour is mildly annoying but they're nice enough boys, whereas I would say any child/children repeatedly disrupting the learning of others is displaying rude, defiant and disruptive behaviour. How staff and parents choose to view behaviour and discuss behaviour probably does give some insight into their treatment of it. That's not self-congratulatory. It's my experience, which is certainly not perfect, but is potentially relevant to a parent wanting to know more about dealing with disruptive chatting in class.