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To be livid over this lazy awful excuse for parenting last night

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:15

I wnet out for girls night and was drinking, baby is normally breastfed but will take formula as I struggle to express.
We havbr used a bottle for several months so I told dp they probably need washing and re sterilising. He said he checked and they didn't need washing just sterilising.
Checked this morning as baby now. Awake and I can't breastfeed yet due to alcohol, last night, and there three bottles with black mould on them in steriliser. I've hit the roof. How lazy is it not to check?
He thinks it isn't a big deal but I'm freaking out that he's put the baby at risk just because he cba to wash up 4 bottles before starlising them!
I know he has ds while I was out but wtaf
I'm panicking that I need to take ds to Dr now.

OP posts:
ReganSomerset · 26/05/2019 12:51

TBH I reckon your bottles weren't properly cleaned the last time they were used. There must have been milk residue left to get black mould, I'd have thought?

dementedpixie · 26/05/2019 13:15

You can get mould from water too. Our water bottles have suffered before and were only ever put water in then

dementedpixie · 26/05/2019 13:15

*we only ever put water in them (autocorrect is stupid!)

dementedpixie · 26/05/2019 13:19

Is it different standards or different quality formula. Different standards I think. You can't kill all the pathogens in formula milk powder and there have been food poisoning cases related to formula milk all over the world. In some cases babies have died

Kokeshi123 · 26/05/2019 13:26

OP, your baby will be fine esp as he is 10mo. Don't panic. However, you are right to be cross at husband for not cleaning bottles properly.

Agree with others that BFing after alcohol would be fine anyway. However, regardless of this, bottles and cups need to be thoroughly cleaned. It's annoying when you can't trust your partner.

hellooosweetheart · 26/05/2019 13:50

The only time I have been away from my dcs is when in hospital and when visiting dm overseas( the eldest canes too) I certainly never left them to go drinking Confused
But yes he should wash the bottle correctly

dementedpixie · 26/05/2019 13:52

No prizes for being a martyr! So what if OP went for a few drinks, she is allowed

herculepoirot2 · 26/05/2019 13:54

Yes, sounds like he missed a spot. It’s not the end of the world, is it?

madcatladyforever · 26/05/2019 13:58

That really is most disgusting, lazy and dangerous. I'd have been livid.
How difficult is it to wash up a few bottles.
Why are so many men so bloody lazy? There is no excuse. Does he want his baby to get gastroenteritis because this happens very easily.

derxa · 26/05/2019 14:22

It's down to both of you about the black mould on the bottles as that didn't get there overnight, those bottles have been dirty for a while.

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 14:26

Okay if people can't be bothered to read the replies. I'm not replying anymore.
Ref the bottles :read responses.

It's sorted now. Bbay is fine and been swimming this morning and eaten two meals and snacks.

Some. Good new breastfeeding info gained, which is useful!

Thank you to everyone who was helpful and non troll-like

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boobirdblue · 26/05/2019 14:28

The only time I have been away from my dcs is when in hospital and when visiting dm overseas( the eldest canes too) I certainly never left them to go drinking *
But yes he should wash the bottle correctly*

Doesn't make you a better mother by any means, just makes you a fucking martyr.

boobirdblue · 26/05/2019 14:30

@Spanglyprincess1 all's well that ends well, glad no harm was done. Probably far more "germs" swallowed while swimming.

Glad you enjoyed your night out.

AbbyHammond · 26/05/2019 14:30

derxa - why is it down to the OP? She breastfeeds, I'll assume she manages to keep her nipples mould-free.
The father uses the bottles and couldn't be bothered to clean them.

boobirdblue · 26/05/2019 14:31

@AbbyHammond I'll assume she manages to keep her nipples mould-free

That actually made me LOL! Good point though 😂😂

TheInvestigator · 26/05/2019 14:33

@hellooosweetheart

So you become a mother and that means no more nights out with friends? The kid lives with 2 parents and is almost a year old; it doesn't need mum to be there constantly anymore. Why is it ok for a dad to go out and do what he wants, but a mum cannot have one night out? Hope you're enjoying being a martyr because you're kids won't be any better off than hers just because you won't ever go out.
Mum having a night out or mum martyring herself and never leaving.... I wonder which mum is happiest and most relaxed.

YouBumder · 26/05/2019 14:36

Yeah it is lazy but I’m sure the baby will be fine. At 10 months old he’ll be putting god knows what into his mouth anyway. If he’s ok with no ill effects I wouldn’t bother calling NHS 24 but I’d be peed off with my husband

YouBumder · 26/05/2019 14:38

The only time I have been away from my dcs is when in hospital and when visiting dm overseas( the eldest canes too) I certainly never left them to go drinking

So?

What do you want, a medal?

bordellosboheme · 26/05/2019 14:39

Mould is really not good for babies OP....

GlossyTaco · 26/05/2019 14:45

Op , are you the poster that has the partner that is self employed and works 60hr weeks but earns very little? The one that is being bullied into paying for a bigger house?

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 14:48

Yep. He's not bullying me though, not happening

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GlossyTaco · 26/05/2019 15:00

I'm sorry that my wording was off.

It seems that you can't even trust him to feed your child safely now. How much more will you tolerate from him?

TheInvestigator · 26/05/2019 15:03

Oh god. There's more? I hope you're thinking seriously about his treatment of you and the attitude he displayed when you confronted him over this. Not a happy way for a child to grow up.

hellooosweetheart · 26/05/2019 17:30

@TheInvestigator I understand what you're saying but what I'm saying is that I've never prioritised alcohol or a night out with the girls over my kids.

POP7777777 · 26/05/2019 17:36

hellooosweetheart

Christ