To be narked that every weekend is taken up WITHOUT me

[treehousemaster]

Simply that ... every weekend over the last couple of months my boyfriend of one year is busy . Occasions such as a wedding( that I was invited to but not brought) to family big birthday parties to friends events and sports .there is no reason for me not to go to any of these but I simply haven't been invited or even seen him before or after . So for example, the sports event may be on Saturday afternoon so he says he isn't free on the friday night having seen him only once during the week ... or later Saturday evening as he is tired and so I may see him for the afternoon on Sunday. AIBU or am I being demanding

Take the hint, he is just not that into you. You deserve better, move on.

Yep, sorry, it looks like you're only there as a fallback when nothing else is going on. He was interested you'd be integrated into his life by now. No ones saying that you have to do everything together but to not be invited to any social events is a lack of commitment.

says he is too tired and I may not see him again until he is rested , Wednesday or even Thursday.

Don't waste another second on him. Tell him it's over. If he asks you to reconsider, tell him you're too tired.

If all you want is a friend with benefits fair enough but if you are hoping to settle down or have kids with him you are on to a loser

I think I remember OP posting about this guy before

Could be be marries? Dating?

Aren't you just totally fed up with it though? It can't do your self esteem any good. I don't know why you're still hanging on and hoping for crumbs.

Please see that he should be putting you first...
It is not like he has not been out....this month.
He should be wanting to see you as soon as possible.
Read up on the signals he is giving you...

How many more years would you like to be with Mr Wrong when Mr Wright is out there?

You can't get time back.

BTDT bought the t-shirt, if he really wants time away, dump him , but love is fickle girls hang on and put up with it till FB tells you he is snogging another girl. Trust works both ways get out and enjoy yourself you will forget him freezing lower bit off in all weathers watching men kick a bag of leather about for 90 mins Family gatherings are different YOUR family now. Without trust there is nothing , good luck

So dump him.

I seem to remember a very long thread of the exact same 'problem' and the exact same responses.

OP, it's long past time giving this man time in your head or your life.

Have you actually communicated with him?

’d be busy
Out with friends etc
Make yourself unavailable and if he chases you then see how that goes
If he doesn’t move on and meet someone who wants to spend time with you

I'd do this - though it would probably be better to just finish it and move on.

Oh not you again. Really, how many times do you need people to tell you?

You again. FFS. Catch yourself on or stop bitching about him. He's not a boyfriend, he's just someone who shags you when he sees fit because you let him. That's your choice. You want to waste your time on a guy like this, crack on.

Oh is this the guy who won't even have sex with you because he's gay and took you round to meet his family for an hour then dropped you home while he went back to the party?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3589898-didn-t-bring-me-to-a-wedding

I remember your previous threads. It’s not even friends with benefits as he doesn’t like sex.

You are going through agonies over this and I don’t see the point. Why dont you call it a day?

Get rid. He just ain't that into you. You can do so much better.

I think you are being used by him. He is saying to everyone "look, I have a girlfriend, and she's real, not just a hologram" . But you aren't really someone who matters in his life, you are a rent a friend who he can when out to satisfy the aunties, his mum and his granny that he has a life.

I don't know why, maybe he is gay, maybe he just isn't interested in having a relationship with anyone, but whatever the reason it isn't doing your self esteem or life any favours whatsoever. Time to move on.

Tell him over and see what his response is! I suspect it’ll be ‘Meh’! Do you really want to be any mans Meh!

When a man treats you like an option, help him narrow his choices by removing yourself from the equation!

It’s the use of the phrase ‘bring me’ that gives you away, OP. It’s ‘take me’. HTH.

What does you were invited to the wedding but not brought mean?

@Hollowvictory op made another thread about it (under a different name), it's linked below. Op was invited to a wedding as his gf and he said he didn't want her to come with him.

I've no idea why she's sticking around, her self esteem must be on the floor to put up with this.

You hardly see him, he doesn't feel any passion for you when he does see you! It is clear he can do besotted, but he's not besotted with you.

Relationship isn't about sex as in he isnt jumping on me . I initiate normally.

What is the point? Do you feel the need to have a boyfriend, like a badge of honour? You are selling yourself very short.

Dump him. I wouldn't even bother doing it in person as you don't see him anyway.