To be narked that every weekend is taken up WITHOUT me

[treehousemaster]

Simply that ... every weekend over the last couple of months my boyfriend of one year is busy . Occasions such as a wedding( that I was invited to but not brought) to family big birthday parties to friends events and sports .there is no reason for me not to go to any of these but I simply haven't been invited or even seen him before or after . So for example, the sports event may be on Saturday afternoon so he says he isn't free on the friday night having seen him only once during the week ... or later Saturday evening as he is tired and so I may see him for the afternoon on Sunday. AIBU or am I being demanding

Sounds more like he doesn't roll you out for big occasions. It sounds like you're not that important to him. Which is crap, no wonder you're fed up.

You're never going to be with someone special while you waste your time on someone who is not... (I'm not saying that to be horrible, I learned it the hard way).

My ex was like this I stuck it out for four years it never changed! Save yourself the time!

He does not see you as a big part of his life. Find someone who does.

I'm not the only woman in his life... he is besotted with his mother, his sisters and his best friend . And I get on very well with his mother and sisters but haven't met his friend but he's besotted with her too. I have low chance with him , don't I?

Leave him. Of course he was being super nice to you when it looked like it was all going to end. Its a well known tactic. He likes the relationship the way it is. He is just using you for sex until something better comes along. Turn your phone off and block his number.

I see dp 2/3 times a week. Every time there is a ‘family’ event- holiday, party, get together etc I am invited and attended. When his ‘friends’ have nights out, if wives etc are going I am invited. I am invited to parties of his friends I’ve never met.

Just to give you some context OP.

Why didn’t he invite you to the wedding?
Did he tell you afterwards that you could have gone? Sounds a bit mean.
If you’ve not met his “best friend “ after a year then I don’t think it’s going anywhere, sorry.

You're dating. So he can see you Saturday evening or not at all. Not as a filler midweek. And if you haven't made plans together by midweek for the weekend, make your own plans.
If he's not prepared to give you premium time then he's not that interested.

but haven't met his friend but he's besotted with her too.

does he take her to all these events...

You given this long enough. If he liked you more, he would integrate you more into his life. But he doesn’t. He’s wasting your time.

To quote that old gem, he’s just not that into you. Sorry OP.

I agree with everyone else, this has no future. You're just a place filler when he's not going something (or someone?) else to do. Sorry. But don't worry, you've found out relatively early and can walk away pretty unscathed.

Don't underestimate your worth because of this, a decent guy would be delighted to have you with him at a big event. Hold out for one of those.

I wouldn't pin any hopes on a long term relationship here.

Are you the OP who posted about this last week and a few days you were a beard as he's probably gay? Either way: get rid of him, you deserve better. He's then unreasonable one and treating you like you are just sat there waiting for him to snap his fingers. Self respect is needed here

Move on.

After 6 months DH and I were planning our wedding. And that was with us being in a long distance relationship.

He doesn't make enough effort.

Could you be his beard OP??

There's no point to him at all, OP. Time to move on.

Are you a couple on social media?

I’d be concerned that you’re actually the OW.

When was the last time you met his family / friends? If it was at the start of your relationship but not for a while I’d put money on the fact he will have someone else and will have told his family you’d split.

Even if that is just my paranoia, this is not a relationship. You make time for each other in a relationship.

It's not a relationship at all OP.

You are there as another option...
He is definitely not into you.
He's also a selfish git... no two ways about it because he wants what he wants and at the moment you are enabling him.

I was in a relationship like this for a long time and he finally told me, when he had met THE ONE, that he had never loved me.
I wasted a lot of years on that man, years I will never get back.

So my advice is to end it before you waste anymore of your life and find someone who wants a proper relationship with YOU!

It’s quite obvious.

He’s not that into you.

I’d be moving on.

Sounds like his best friend who he probably has hopes of a proper relationship with is probably at most of these events and he doesn't want to spoil his chances! Sorry, but that's how I would read it.

You deserve someone who can’t wait to be with you , who wants to spend most of his free time with you . We all do.

While you waste time with this guy you have much less chance of finding someone much more connected.

The biggest alarm bell for me is that you haven’t met the best friend with whom you say he is besotted .

Definitely dump and move on!

Agree with Casmama I think you may not be the only girl hes interested in to be frank .Probably try to meet someone new.

I'm sorry to say that my BIL is like this. He has been seeing a girl for the last two years but we have never, ever seen her! He is still actively looking for someone better as he goes on dates and shows us pictures of them. But we have never ever seen his actual long term girlfriend. My FIL accidently caught a look at her one time she dropped him home in her car. BIL quickly told her to go. My FIL said she was plain looking and chubby not like his usual dates. He was under the impression that he was ashamed to be seen with her. I personally think that he is a knob, stringing her a long until he finds someone better. You can do so much better.