To be narked that every weekend is taken up WITHOUT me

[treehousemaster]

Simply that ... every weekend over the last couple of months my boyfriend of one year is busy . Occasions such as a wedding( that I was invited to but not brought) to family big birthday parties to friends events and sports .there is no reason for me not to go to any of these but I simply haven't been invited or even seen him before or after . So for example, the sports event may be on Saturday afternoon so he says he isn't free on the friday night having seen him only once during the week ... or later Saturday evening as he is tired and so I may see him for the afternoon on Sunday. AIBU or am I being demanding

Well done op

You can definitely do better x

Has he noticed yet?

Be prepared for him to promise you the moon - he's not going to like to have to put the effort into finding another beard girlfriend who doesn't want to have sex or see him more than once a week for a few hours.

Well done.

It will feel shit for a while and you'll be tempted to get back in contact but try not to.

I would really recommend taking some time to focus on yourself with some counselling to help you see why you might have accepted the situation for so long.

I had counselling and it really helps uncover things you're not even really aware of that are subconsciously causing you to make certain decisions. I'm now happily married and without the counselling I don't think I would be.

Sorry you may have posted this...
Are you being used as a beard, as my DD calls it.
Either to mask that he is having an affair with his female friend, or a male friend.

If he contacts you, use us as a help to stop him charming you again.

I'd end it, there's more to life than waiting for someone to pay you attention. When in a relationship you deserve to be treated well and if he's not doing that now he never will.