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To have a third child just to have a girl?

179 replies

Calltheguards · 21/05/2019 19:42

I know I'm being completely ridiculous!

I dream of having a daughter. My mum and I used to collect dolls and say I would pass them down to my daughter (it was more my mum's thing than mine but I liked the idea of it). I get so jealous when I see little girl clothing. We have boys and they're lovely but I really, really want a girl.

AIBU to have us try in hopes that we get a girl?

OP posts:
HappyDappy3 · 21/05/2019 20:43

My best friend did this...she had a third boy!!

purpleboy · 21/05/2019 20:45

@Alwaysgrey my niece is at a SN school and whenever we go there, I always feel so overwhelmed with respect at the other parents there. They are the kindest, caring, compassionate parents I've ever met.
In short they are fantastic. As I'm sure are you and your DC.

Mishappening · 21/05/2019 20:46

Mmmm? - having girls is not about dressing them up and having dolls. It is about welcoming a new person into the world and letting them be themselves. Seriously I do not think you should have a third child - it would be a huge mistake.

DistanceCall · 21/05/2019 20:47

Why can't your sons play with your dolls I don't get it?

There's always one isn't there Grin

One what? It's a good question.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 21/05/2019 20:48

My auntie did this. She had two boys and was desperate for a girl, third child was a boy. She then decided to have a fourth because surely it would be a girl? Nope it was a boy. She gave up after that.

Fakeflowersandlemonade · 21/05/2019 20:48

I had 2 Ds and desperately wanted a DD to dress up and do girl stuff with. My 3rd child was indeed a DD but she is the most masculine of my 3 dc. I genuinely wouldn't have her any other day either

Helpimfalling · 21/05/2019 20:50

For me number four was the girl...
Sorry but thankgod she is literally the icing on the cake of which is my life

Creatureofthenight · 21/05/2019 20:50

Have a third child because you want a third child, not because you want to play dress up.

DesperadoDan · 21/05/2019 20:54

I’d go for it if you could guarantee to yourself you wouldn’t be heartbroken if the baby was another boy.
I knew a lady who eventually got her girl after 4 boys, she was a school mum at DD’s primary, I remember seeing her with newborn baby no 4 slung over her arm, asked her whether it was a girl or boy, her actual words were it’s another bloody boy.
My heart broke a little for him.

Ilikeviognier · 21/05/2019 20:59

I have two boys and i get what you’re saying but I’m afraid it’s a no way from me. There are no guarantees. I’d try to be grateful for what I had and that they were (hopefully) healthy. Some people can’t even have one.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 21/05/2019 21:00

I actually find all the talk of "dressing a girl up and doing girly things with her" deeply offensive. All girls are not the same.

Auramigraine · 21/05/2019 21:01

@DesperadoDan

That just broke my heart a little imagining a tiny little baby on his mum while she said that...... poor little mite

Drogosnextwife · 21/05/2019 21:02

I just want a third child Sad. I feel excited when I think about a third baby, and then the reality of it not being possible right now sinks in.

SoyDora · 21/05/2019 21:03

I would love to see anyone trying to dress up my DD2 (aged 3). She’s worn whatever the hell she wanted since she was about 18 months!

Ilikeviognier · 21/05/2019 21:04

Yes the poor baby. Imagine saying “it’s another bloody boy”😡Angry.

PickAChew · 21/05/2019 21:05

I know a few large families of all boys. My dad was one of 7 boys.

S0uthernBelle · 21/05/2019 21:05

I’m female and have 4 sisters....I think my parents wanted a boy. It just wasn’t to be.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 21/05/2019 21:07

You are statistically more likely than 50pc to have a boy if the first two were boys.

What if you have a girl and she hated pink and girls clothes and playing with dolls? Plenty of girls were like that including me.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 21/05/2019 21:07

You can save the dolls for your grandkids?

TheRedBarrows · 21/05/2019 21:07

“To all the people flaming OP she is not hurting anyone.”
Maybe check that with people who know they were the failed attempt to get the ‘right’ sex.

LOL: my brother would have been far more likely to have played with dolls than me. And DS1 was besotted with his baby doll, had clothes sets, accessories etc.

Is this actually the C21st or did I get off at the wrong stop?

Propertywoes · 21/05/2019 21:08

Passing down your dolls has got to be the absolute worst reason for having a baby that I've ever heard.

cakeandchampagne · 21/05/2019 21:09

You need counseling to sort this out.

NameChangerAmI · 21/05/2019 21:11

As others have said - have another child if you want another child, not if you only want a girl, and definitely don't want a boy.

I just don't get it - an acquaintance of mine really wanted a girl and was so disappointed when her 2nd DC was a boy. Sad

Iwantacookie · 21/05/2019 21:12

Trust me op my one dd is more work than both my ds put together.
If you want another baby go for it but don't have one just because you want a girl.

Drogosnextwife · 21/05/2019 21:12

Apparently we need counseling for every bloody thought h and feeling we have. If I had counseling for everything it's recommended for on MN I would have no money to feed my kids Hmm