Would you wreck someone’s wedding if they wrecked yours?

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I know I’m BU but it’s a thought that’s crossed my mind.

I’ve NC and not going in to finer detail because it’s outing.

So yeah PIL and Bil did a great job of turning our wedding in to something awful. I feel it was done on purpose because of something that was said to a close friend of mine before the day off Bil.

I’ll never forget BILs smirk as he was leaving. Dh was dealing with something else. His new girlfriend at the time was also incredibly rude to DH a while later. Dh didn’t tell me at the time because he knew how upset I was still over the wedding.

I was so upset after the wedding. I couldn’t talk about it for a few weeks with out crying and for about four/five months after I was incredibly low. It was an expensive wedding, looked forward to it for years and I couldn’t get past that i felt they had done it out of spite. I’m NC with Bil and his girlfriend. Very low contact with PIL

Dh is in low contact with bil and his girlfriend.

I’ve honestly put up with some much shit of this family. For years I kept quiet not to rock the boat bit this was the last straw.

Any way BIL girlfriend is about to become his fiancé. I know for a fact he has already cheated on her. That’s what he does. He has always been like that.

I’m having thoughts that I’m going to send an engagement present and ‘build bridges’ just so i can go to the wedding and wreck it for them.

The thought gives me so much pleasure.

I know I’m acting like a complete psycho.

Or like watching a film and then realising that Sky+ didn’t record the end.

THANKS OP

I don't think I would to be honest. But I might be tempted to Fill the fountain with black food colouring and bubble mix 😏

Oh, just don't go, and be EVER so nice about it. Passive-aggressive smiles etc. They'll be braced for you to be nasty about it, so why give them the satisfaction? Karma will bite him in the bum if he's regularly this horrible.

People do do this, though. I regret this, but at an extremely straight-laced wedding of a close friend, where I put up with a lot of drama, stress and angst (I was one of the bridesmaids), the entire bridesmaid table rebelled at the very old-fashioned wedding breakfast . (Think loads of very aged people (the entire congregation of the church plus a few family) at tables, eating cold cuts and salads, not drinking from the one bottle of wine per table ... and the 'young' table, where we were drinking to lessen the stress of the day.) We all got plastered (long after most of the party had gone home) and got back to the house mid-evening and were basically very, very drunk. The wedding party were drinking coffee and tea, and opening presents. A row ensued. I'm not at all proud of it but this was one odd and stressful wedding. Flowers, letters of apology etc were sent.

Two years later, I get married. Wedding friend has been asked, naturally, and I've asked her to do a special reading because I'm trying to make it up to her. With less than 24 hours to go, she cancels and does not sound remotely sorry about it. I'm sure she was 'getting back' at me. Fair enough, I suppose.

PLEASE fill the fountain with black food colouring and bubble bath
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