Would you wreck someone’s wedding if they wrecked yours?

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I know I’m BU but it’s a thought that’s crossed my mind.

I’ve NC and not going in to finer detail because it’s outing.

So yeah PIL and Bil did a great job of turning our wedding in to something awful. I feel it was done on purpose because of something that was said to a close friend of mine before the day off Bil.

I’ll never forget BILs smirk as he was leaving. Dh was dealing with something else. His new girlfriend at the time was also incredibly rude to DH a while later. Dh didn’t tell me at the time because he knew how upset I was still over the wedding.

I was so upset after the wedding. I couldn’t talk about it for a few weeks with out crying and for about four/five months after I was incredibly low. It was an expensive wedding, looked forward to it for years and I couldn’t get past that i felt they had done it out of spite. I’m NC with Bil and his girlfriend. Very low contact with PIL

Dh is in low contact with bil and his girlfriend.

I’ve honestly put up with some much shit of this family. For years I kept quiet not to rock the boat bit this was the last straw.

Any way BIL girlfriend is about to become his fiancé. I know for a fact he has already cheated on her. That’s what he does. He has always been like that.

I’m having thoughts that I’m going to send an engagement present and ‘build bridges’ just so i can go to the wedding and wreck it for them.

The thought gives me so much pleasure.

I know I’m acting like a complete psycho.

I can’t reply because I can’t understand all the acronyms!

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Do NOT retaliate. She doesn't deserve it and you're better than them!

How about a moon pig card with the other woman's photo on and a really rubbish gift.

As soon as you know the date book a family holiday and have a wonderful time.

I would get a full bridal hair makeup and job and rock up to the wedding in an eye catching white dress ( not a wedding dress, that'd be too obvious) then get in all the pics 😊.

• hair and makeup job

I would do some research and find some proof of his affairs. Then I would contact her the night before the wedding and show her it all. Even if she doesn't call it off she (and he) will go through their Big Day in foul moods (one would hope)

I would say no contact, leave them to it. The moment you get involved, they will find a way to shit on you again. People like that always will, they have no limits. Just carry on enjoying your peaceful life away from them. They're not worth it, not your time, not your energy, and definitely not your mental health
Take care of yourself OP

Do it! I would xxx

I probably would to be honest. People need some sort of comeuppance

A wedding is one day, being happily married for the rest of you and your partner’s life is more important. Be happy in the fact you and your husband have a more solid relationship, they are jealous of what you have, don’t let them ruin it, don’t lower yourself to their level

I'm afraid you'll have to be a big girl and rise above it. I'd put money on it that if you tried to sabotage their wedding, it would come back and bite you on the bum. That's karma. Their karma will be waiting for them.

Send both the bride and groom a desperate gift in the morning, like champagne or chocolates that they would consume before the wedding starts. Lace these things with quick acting laxatives...

Just don’t turn up on the day.
‘Oh, I thought it was next week! Sorry!’ With a smug face 🤷🏼‍♀️

Trust me, in these situations if you have the moral high ground currently, please keep it! You will feel crap afterwards if you do sink to their level and these things have a nasty habit of catching up with you. Don’t even run it through in your head just in case!!

I think you should go and do exactly whatever it was that BIL did at your wedding.
Karma.

Send the photographer home, do a slow hand clap through the speeches and keep asking BIL very loudly where the OW is?

A friend of mine lets call her Fergie, on being invited to a wedding of another friend, lets call him Charles, who she knew was cheating on the bride to be, sent the lovely couple a handmade -by-the-kids congratulations on your wedding card. It was of the style with kids drawn stick people outside a church cut from a magazine, with faces cut from a catalogue/magazines, decorated with plants and flowers cut from a gardening magazine, complete with stuck on lace veil and loads of glitter and confetti.
Only the woman's face was the OW Camilla. Ferge wished she had filmed Charles and Diana opening the card (glitter everywhere) for the expression on Charles' face on discovering the bride on the card had Camilla's face.

i couldnt. i find f))k dem and moving on way easier.dont let yourself down.f#++k them any way suits you.sounds like neither of them goin in eyes wide open already.extending olive branch n being ever so sorry youve mist yrs will pay higher in end.its nice being nice

Don't do it, why reduce yourself to their level?
Whoever said that revenge was sweet didn't know wat they were talking about.
Revenge is like a pitcher of warm spit.

One of my cousins wore a white dress to my wedding..

Revenge is a dish best served cold ..

to be so curel to people youve got to be pretty shit inside.they have to live with themselves and that must be a shitty persons to live within.

dont stoop to their level becasue your just not like them.

write down what youve do.them burn it.let them be.there life wont be cosy if they are this kind of people.

Don’t do it it. Makes you as bigger twat as they were.

I have to explain this to my 14 year olds all the time,

If they “win” (which they didn’t because you still ar happily married) NO ONE CARES.Hoensrlty.Write them off as as annoying but necessary and have laughs with people you enjoy.

It's hard when someone(s) have hurt you so badly, and particularly on your special day. What were in-law relations like before you got married, had things always been fractious, it can't have all come 'out of the blue', no-one would ruin your big day for no reason - not to that extent - they must be really nasty people to humiliate you. If they were so aggrieved with you in particular, why not just boycott the wedding altogether, that would have been bad enough, but to ruin it altogether is downright cruel.

There must be more to this, people don't do that for no reason. What did you do?

Don't do it, you're worth more than that. You can't change the past but you can watch the future in a dignified silence and leave Karma to take care of them, and it will. Good Luck.