To ask about Primary School mums. Friends or frenemies?

[MessyMummy15]

Ok so my son is due to start primary school in September. He will be in reception and we live in London.

1 mum friend. Let's call her Milly. Says that meeting all the other parents who have kids in your kids class is great. You all form a bond and can talk to each other and basically she's made friends for life and everyone is super close. Even go on camping holidays together.

Other mum friend, let's call her Rosie, says that she can't stand drop off and pick up because she feels that no one talks to her and she gets dirty looks for no reason. And it's awkward.

Both of their kids go to schools in same area but different schools.

What am I to expect?
How have you all gotten along with other school mums? Is it cliquey? Or everyone just put there heads down and gets on with it?
What was the hardest thing about other school Mums?

Entering final year if primary school hurrah😀

The longer I have done the school run the worse it gas become. I sit and wait in car bow child comes to meet me ✔️

I have always been friendly and open to all conversations but never really clicked with anyone in anything but a surface level. Guess it depends what 'friend'means to you 😊

Happy to move on tbh and my involvement had made minimal difference in my opinion.

My advice be open and see how it goes, good luck 😉

Apologies for typos

From experience, I would try not to get too involved. I made loads of school mum friends when my eldest was in reception and we used to meet up and do lots of stuff in the school hols. Then a few left as they moved away etc, then in year 2 the class got mixed so the group was then not as big or close. In year 3 a new child started. The mum obv was new so I tried to make an effort and chat and introduce her another mum. We'd all do coffee etc every now and then with a mum from another school, but lately I feel like she subtley trues to exclude me from coffee meet ups etc. I also used to go running with the friend from the other school, but now they go walking together and again, I am excluded. Not sure what i've done to either of them and i've not been rude and she is perfectly nice to my face. Last month she had organised coffee and not invited me and another mum in the group posted to ask where we were going. I replies in the group messenger that I was not invited and don't know anything about it lol and the one that organised it still said nothing. Anyway, sorry for long post but I needed to get it off my chest as I don't feel I can bring it up with them. I have been told she moved her kids as she was getting bullied by the mums at previous school. Don't know how true that is, but if so maybe it makes her self esteem feel better to exclude me? Anyway, my advice would be to make an effort but to keep your guard up and to not get too involved. It has really knocked my confidence in the beginning. Now i'm just trying to distance myself. It's very sad how some grown women behave.