To fancy a teacher at my sons school?

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Any teachers out there? What's the deal?

Said teacher is single, I feel like it's a mutual thing, I really don't know.

Is there a policy on teacher/parent dating?

Don't shit where you eat. Or in this case where your child eats.

Really? Just no?

When I was single I would never have considered a parent at the school I taught at to be potential dating material. Just blurs too many lines.

Christ, I'd've been mortified if my mum or dad had done this. 😱

My school was rife with teachers with teachers, sometimes affairs, sometimes parents/teachers. Plus students go to schools where their parents teach etc so honestly I wouldn't see it as a big deal if a parent dated a teacher, personally.

I'm in the just no camp.

Hmmm. Guess it's a bad idea. I'm just really attracted to him. I'm not the type of person that would gob off about it. I've got a good job I'm respectful, I'm quite a private person actually. There's just something about him.

He seems so lovely. I've been separated from my child's dad a year and haven't really been attracted to anyone else.

But yeah... guess ill just have make myself not fancy him somehow!

You can fancy him. You just can't do anything about it.

@MrsTerryPratchett - that's torture though! 😩

No it's nice to have someone idly think about while recognizing it's impractical.

He's your safe crush. The one that gets you ready for an actual relationship when you meet someone suitable. Sometimes we do this to 'practice' feeling attracted before we are ready.

Just don't get it confused.

@MrsTerryPratchett - ooh do you think that could be it? maybe I'm getting to the point where I am ready to get back out there and maybe and like you say, he's a safe bet. He's just so lovely and handsome though. I fancied him for ages. I respect his job though and would never want to make the situation awkward.

How much time do you spend with him if you think the feeling is mutual?
It's a no.

Just no.

@Pieceofpurplesky - oh my god you're going to think I'm a freak. He's there were my son is let out of class at home time. Just get a few looks, smiles. You know? I feel like I sound like a freak now! That's what I mean, I don't actually know! Maybe I've just got carried away with the fantasy of it all. I've not said anything to anyone..so my divinity is in tact. That's why I'm asking for advice here.

I just couldnt do it.

Ds would be horrified and that is enough for me. School is hard enough as it is.

But yes I take it all on board. It's a no! Maybe I needed to hear it.

Yeah you are building this up in your head.

A few smiles a drop off time?

One of my friends married his kids headteacher! They met because his kids went to the school. Life is too short!

Does he actually teach your child?

@Icandothisallday - I know it sounds mad. Maybe I have built it all up in my head. Got carried away with the idea of it. Well there's nothing like Mumsnet for a cold dose of reality!

I know a parent who is getting married to one of her son’s teachers later this year... it happens!

Doesn't teach my child.

Oh @Kezzamo I love this! And the headteacher as well. That what I think. Life is short! Why not!

My friend met his wife this way, he taught her child and she asked him out one parents' evening.

How old is your DC?