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To fancy a teacher at my sons school?

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 18:45

Any teachers out there? What's the deal?

Said teacher is single, I feel like it's a mutual thing, I really don't know.

Is there a policy on teacher/parent dating?

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 19:49

@KnobZombie7 thanks for your advice. Has what I had pretty much decided. I did bump into him the other week and we had a nice brief chat, I got flustered and kinda ended the conversation though. I didn't feel it was appropriate to ask him anything personal, but now I feel like I won't get another chance.

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sonjadog · 19/05/2019 19:50

I think if I were you, I would take it really slow. Try to get chatting to him and see what happens and if you get to a point where you want to ask him out, do it when your child is leaving the school.

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 19:52

Thanks @sonjadog . That's what I thought when I bumped into him. I'm my head I always said if I ever bump into him away from school 'I'm just going to ask him out'. Obviously that was bravado because when it came to it I thought it would she a bit brazen, so I figured just making convo and briefly chatting broke the ice.

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KnobZombie7 · 19/05/2019 20:01

You know, I'd be a little proactive in all this. Where you bumped into him, is he likely to go there a lot? I think you can increase the chances of another out-of-school meeting, and I think you should. Be more prepared next time. Think of something to say that could allow him to respond in a way that you'll know if he's interested or not.

Reminds me of a friend who, ages ago, liked her dentist. She mentioned something about having a terrible blind date earlier that day when she 'bumped' into him. He said something along the lines of 'I can't believe you're online dating, maybe I should try it, I've been single too long'. They exchanged coy smiles and then he asked her to join him for lunch. They went out for a couple of years.

bobstersmum · 19/05/2019 20:06

For goodness sake why the hell not! If you think he likes you too then do something about it, but don't ask me what!

Thetruthwillout80 · 19/05/2019 20:11

Go for it! You never know!Smile

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 20:16

@KnobZombie7 - I know what you're saying. I agree. It was sheer coincidence I bumped into him, in all the years my son as been at that school I never have. Now I think that's that. I know I sound crazy saying he smiles at me, but you know when you just get a vibe? I could be wrong and if I am, then I am. Point taken. I always glance at him at the school gates and as I'm leaving and he's ALWAYS looking in my direction. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 20:17

That's it @bobstersmum - what can I do? I've racked my brains and short to just asking and risking mortification I'm stuck exchanges childish glances!

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 20:19

@Thetruthwillout80 - I agree, I've always found him attractive but lately I'm just like a teenager with a stupid crush.

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Username1again · 19/05/2019 20:26

Why not.
I don't see why everybody is being so bloody negative about the whole thing!
You know - when you know.
And if you ask him out and he says no, so what.

LittleAndOften · 19/05/2019 20:27

I've been a teacher for 17 years, I've never known this in Secondary. However a friend of mine is a single male primary school teacher and gets a lot of interest from the single mums at his school. He had to come off Internet dating sites because of it, and also feels like he can no longer go out to local bars and pubs because he was always bumping into said mums and being hit on. I'm not saying any of them were harassing him, but for him it crossed a line and made him feel hugely uncomfortable.

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 20:29

Thanks @Username1again - I appreciate your positivity! It's a difficult one, I'll just carry on waiting it out

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askingforamate · 19/05/2019 20:31

@LittleAndOften - well i would like to think I haven't made him uncomfortable! It's only a small school and I'm the only single mum on the class I think! But yeah maybe he's dealt with his for years haha x

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ShastaBeast · 19/05/2019 20:34

How do you know he’s single?

KnobZombie7 · 19/05/2019 20:36

It's very unlikely he will act on things if he does like you due to his job. So, you're going to have to make it clear that you like him. You've got to orchestrate a second meeting somehow.

notdaddycool · 19/05/2019 21:21

Knew someone who slept with the mum of a kid in his class, had another kid, messy on many levels.

shitpark · 19/05/2019 21:38

If he is looking at you whenever you're looking at him and he smiles at you, then he likes you. Why don't you just speak to him whenever you see him. But he might not want to do anything about it, it may jeopardise his career, different schools have different rules.
So you might just have to continue having this frisson between you. I think it's romantic

shitpark · 19/05/2019 21:40

It must be difficult for teachers to meet anyone, the long hours they work. I bet its a lonely job

Confusedteacher · 19/05/2019 21:46

I dated a parent from school once who I met on a dating website. Didn’t realise his DS was at my school until we were on our date and he asked where I worked! Blush Didn’t last but I still bump into him occasionally at parents eve, it’s not awkward.

But it’s made me think, if you know he’s single you could look on some dating websites and see if he’s signed up? Then if you made contact that way it would be a bit less weird?!

BigRedLondonBus · 19/05/2019 21:51

Could have written this myself! I have a huge crush on Ds teacher. He’s the only man I’ve found attractive since my ex and I’ve been single over 2 years. I find myself day dreaming about him, it does all feel abit embarrassing like a teenage crush. He’s overly friendly and chatty as well but I think that’s just his personality. Don’t think he would ever look at me twice tbh. But I can day dream lol 😂 how do you know he is single?

sausagepastapot · 19/05/2019 21:53

Ah, you know what, life is so fucking short. I say absolutely go for it. He may well be the absolute love of your life. I would absolutely throw caution to the wind. Good luck to you.

PavlovaFaith · 19/05/2019 21:57

From the teacher perspective there's no way in hell I'd date a parent Grin

BigRedLondonBus · 19/05/2019 22:02

It must be difficult for teachers to meet anyone, the long hours they work. I bet its a lonely job

My sisters a teacher and has a great social life, she’s been out all weekend. She certainly doesn’t struggle to meet anyone.

CustardySergeant · 19/05/2019 22:36

optimisticpessimist01 "I sometimes find a few dad's attractive but that's as far as it ever goes."

You're really a teacher?

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askingforamate · 20/05/2019 08:29

Thanks all. Think I'll just leave it as is. A lot of teachers saying no way. So i imagine eve if he did like me he's to professional to act on it and I respect that.

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