Getting old is harder for attractive people

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My sister is really struggling with accepting the aging process. She is approaching 50 and it's all she talks about. I am a bit younger but couldn't care less.

I am trying to work out if this is simply because I'm younger or if it's because she was always the good looking one. I am not worried about losing my looks as such because I never had any in the first place. Is aging harder to accept when you were previous a looker? Interested to hear other people's experiences.

Agree that Klopp is a good looking fellow and I'm not particularly partial to older men.

I am probably not saying anything revolutionary new or interesting here. I don't know what most people think of my looks. I think I have a beautiful face, but it might not be so for others. I guess the truth is somewhere in the middle, or that I am "above average" attractive. I'm 43, never had any cosmetic intervention but I am considering botox and dermatological fillers. I don't hate myself or worry too much about my looks, but this is what i think I should do at this stage to look better. As I never used any make up, I think this is what it takes to make natural look work at this age.
I don't judge anyone, but I hate when people wheel out the word "vanity".

I'm only a few years younger than him, so Klopp isn't really an older man for me! But while I generally prefer younger men when it comes to looks (not that I think I'd have a chance with most of them!) I think Klopp is a good example of how men can maintain their looks if only they're prepared to put in a little effort and not assume that only women need to take care of themselves as they age.

I thought I was fat and ugly when I was a teenager and in my 30s, looking back now I wasn't at all! Makes me think to make the most of me as I am now, as otherwise I'll be looking back at my 30s in my 40s and thinking....I wasn't that bad at all and so on and so on...

Re. Botox. As PP's have said, you can always tell, imo. I know a couple of people who use it and it does something odd to their faces. They don't look young really, just frozen! But, they like what they see in the mirror and it's their money, so their choice.

I'm always bemused at people's confidence that they know such things.

I'm 45 and I find it hard to look at pictures of myself when I was much younger, but I just don't dwell on it.

You're never going to look as good as you do today, so enjoy.

Once a potato, always a potato.

I'd love to look back and say I used to turn heads, but I think I've more likely turned stomachs.

I honestly don't give a fuck about aging, bring on my wrinkles and grey hair, my inner crone is emerging in my 40s

@BloodyDisgrace

Obviously it's your decision, but I wouldn''t. The people I know who've done this look odd, not young If you're beautiful, you'll be beautiful at 70.

I am 56 in November and although my skin is absolutely great for my age I will start paying for regular work to the eye area and jowls from next spring. My mum always looked youthful so I take after her with good genetics but I am quite vain lol. I have always done the full beauty skin care regime right from the age of 15.

My jowls aren't anyway near as bad as some people but I know it will perk me up and as I have a sleep disorder I could use regular work on my eye area soon.

What is the name of the procedure and how much is it polly?

@bloodydisgrace, I know what you mean. I think if you have good teeth, clear skin, defined eyes, healthy hair and simple clothes then you can just get on with it. Of course all of those things sound simple but rather than buying bags and getting nails done and designer clothes, I prefer to make my 'canvas' look as healthy as possible. Not going to pretend to be younger than I am but I can see that as I get older, keeping the basics (skin, eyes, teeth, hair) looking healthy is going to require a little assistance. So, not vain either but not ruling out assistance in the future (if I can afford it). My look is very simple though so I'm not the type to spend a small fortune on perfume, bags, shoes, clothes, nails and then turn around and say a woman who lives in jeans and a navy v-neck me is 'vain' for just contemplating a procedure !!

I was attractive (though tall skinny and awkward as a teenager) when I was younger my prime being my mid- late 30s - I was v like Kate Blanchett - I’m mid 50s now and consequently quite invisible. I spend a bit on maintenance to look the best version of myself without trying to turn back time, I’m fine with ageing but really miss being slim as I’ve become quite plump and don’t seem to be able to reverse this despite a healthy diet, exercise and drinking less. That’s really annoying

Duchess a friend raves about fillers. I am not sure exactly on price but I know she had three thingts done and they were no more than £180 each. It pays to shop around though as prices vary such a lot. Where I live locally the beauty salon was £45 for one session of the whole face (Caci treatment?) but the woman at the counter was no advert in that her face looked utterly decrepid so it totally put me off! My friend said her jowls have now completely gone and she just had her nose done where there were wrinkles (luckily I don't have them there). She says it has lifted her confidence no end.

Never been a concern, because I'm not pretty, never was. I scrub up well though. Always did, still do!

I do wonder how vain men and women manage.

This is my grandma. She is 87, she has a weird sort of reverse narcissism that means when we go out somewhere she perceives as a "young" place she says something like "I'm sure all these people are looking at us and wondering why we're in here" meaning her but also often lumping in my mum, me, my 32 year old female cousin :)

She was a spectacular beauty in her youth. You see old photos and everyone looks a bit drab. She looks like Liz Taylor or Ava Gardner.

She looks pretty good for 87. I thank her for the cheekbones she's given me.

She always used to call any old people O-APs. This was when she was in her 70s. She may very well still do!

When she had her cataracts done she recounted that she caught sight of herself reflected in a window and thought, who's that old woman there? And then she realised it was her. I've always been kind of amused by her refusal to grow old gracefully and her vanity, but that kind of broke my heart. Such is life.