Please help, funeral home visit

[brokenbeyondrepair]

I'll just keep this short and sweet...
My darling darling mother passed away unexpectedly and suddenly last week at a relatively young age, I'm in my 20's (sorry trying not to be outing) and from today she is ready to be visited at the funeral home.
It never crossed my mind that I wouldn't go and see her but when it's come to it, I just don't think I can bear it.
I'm pregnant and due in just a few weeks and I have to put this baby first.
Two family members visited her today and one had to be helped up from the floor absolutely distraught.
She was my absolute world, my best friend as well as my mother.
Other family members don't think I should go to visit her but I fear if I don't I'll regret it for the rest of my life
Please tell me what I should do...

My dad died in January this year, I wasn't there when he died. My mum & brother got there just too late but were able to have time sat with him & say goodbye. I didn't go to the chapel of rest to see him & I deeply regret it. I couldnt associate that wooden box with my dad, I'm a coward where death is concerned & hate myself for it. You only get one chance to do this, there are no second chances to get it right, if you think you will have regrets, go to the chapel of rest, you don't have to look if you don't want to but will be in the same room as your loved one.

I’m so sorry for your loss, and can feel through your grief that you loved your mother very, very much. That is what matters. I am certain that she knew that too. Seeing her body might be traumatic for you because sometimes dead bodies do look a bit different to the live person. The finality of it all can be a shock, especially if you haven’t seen one before. If you feel it could help you come to terms with knowing your mother is gone and is at peace, then by all means, go and see her, but it is not necessary. What matters are the memories and feelings you carry around in your heart.

First of all I am sorry for your loss.
I would say go with whatever feels right to you. My mother passed away last year and I was worried that if I made the wrong decision about something it would be on my mind for a long time. I didn't and it hasn't.
I wasn't there when my dad died , over 10 years ago, but I was there shortly after and sat with him
I was with my mum.
I didn't go to view at the chapel of rest.
I brought DM home and had a wake. I had the undertaker arrange it so if anyone wanted to view I could remove the lid. No one did but I would've if they wanted.
In the past I've attended funerals with open caskets. I considered this but they don't seem regular here now.
Be kind to yourself and do what you think is right

I have lost 4 loved ones. I was present at the death of 3 of them. I visited one of those in the Chapel of Rest about 5 days after their death. I had given the undertakers the style of clothes which were worn mostly for the last few years and they put those put on. I was not afraid even though I did not know what to expect as I had never done that before. I showed the undertaker who was going to take me into the room a photo of my loved one and I was told that is how they look. I actually thought my loved one looked pale! I am glad that I went because although I knew that my relative was not in the room I saw them as they used to look before the last illness.

The fourth person who died had been ill all their life. I was not present at he death nor was any member of the family. I did not deal with arrangements and the arrangement was that we were to go to a certain church etc. There was no visiting and no open coffin. For ages, after that, I did wonder if they really had died, but as time went by I have had to accept that they really are gone.
You have to make your own decision but you could ask that a member of staff goes in with you if you are going alone. You could also try showing a photo to ensure that every effort is made to get the right hair and makeup.
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your DM while you are pregnant. It must be so hard.
(Flowers)

Sorry for your loss, If your mum had a post Mortem I would no recommend going. I saw my mum a couple of hours after she died and she looked ok but when I went to the chapel of rest after the post mortem she looked completely different and nothing like my mum have always regretted going