I feel really shit posting this but here goes

[Flippedout]

Should I know how much we can save a month as a family ( for a house ) when my OH is the bread winner ?

I don’t think he appreciates my asking him about the family budget .

He pays all the bills as I’m SAHM , but I have worked and had career before kids and have made major financial contributions to current house , and I have put a large sum aside for future house move too .

I think I'd do a bit of digging first. Look for statements or bank logins or emails... people are are often careless with passwords.

Then I'd have some hard questions for him. "I want to move but you don't, how shall we resolve this "?

"Is your monthly wage secret? Why? What is it? Are we equal partners"?

Good luck. It sounds tricky. Is everything else ok? Part from the toys which sounded cruel.

Flippedout, if your H won't budge after you try what GabriellaMontez advises, then you need to stop thinking in terms of 'we' and 'us' when you are considering the idea of another place to live.

The new home needs to be the one you and your children live in.

And yes, what he does with the toys is cruel.

It should tell you everything you need to know about this man and the probability of the rest of you emerging from this relationship undamaged if he does not do a 180 degree change.