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AIBU?

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Original poster

It's a parking one!!

256 replies

NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 09:45

So we live in a relatively new build which has 6 designated spaces (think 1A, 1B, 1C and so on)

I'm not long back and there is a car in my space, so I parked in the one next to me. The next door neighbour came out and asked me to move as her husband is due back soon.
But move where!!

AIBU?

OP posts:
my2bundles · 12/05/2019 11:36

You have no right to use their space. God its like banging my head against a brick wall. It dosent matter if he us not using it you still have no right to use it.

GabsAlot · 12/05/2019 11:36

you dont seem to get it-of course youre allowed to be annoyed but its not your ndn fault u all just cant park whereever because someone has nicked your space

leave a note on the car and say private parking do not park here but u have to move your car

RedToothBrush · 12/05/2019 11:36

Nobody owns it I'm sure. Otherwise the people parked wouldn't have parked in my space if they thought I owned it.

I own the rights to park in my parking space even though I don't own the land. Its in my property deeds. This has not stopped people parking in it. People wouldn't dream about parking on someone else's drive but they think its fine to park in their space (OP, you parked on someone else's drive and then moan about someone doing it to you - so I'm struggling with the sympathy here). We've been lucky and not had a problem with it too often here, but on the odd occasion we have, I do not hestitate to block the offender in. My neighbours all know which is my car so have the option to ask me to move when they need to, and appreciate why I am making a point. Strangely enough, people who have used my space don't do it again and the act of having to come and ask for me to move my car results in an outbreak of sudden remorse out of the sheer embarassment of having to grovel.

MsRabbitRocks · 12/05/2019 11:37

So I'm not allowed to be annoyed that somebody has used my space as a free for all?!

Deliberately missing everyone’s point OP. Of course you are allowed to be annoyed. What you are not allowed to do is then park in someone else’s space. Especially when they have specifically asked you not to! Nobody can be this dense surely??

Pinkyyy · 12/05/2019 11:37

So I'm not allowed to be annoyed that somebody has used my space as a free for all

Definitely not when YOU ARE DOING THE SAME THING. Why should he have to come home from work and mess about asking you to move? Stop being so lazy and go and park 7 minutes away.

TSSDNCOP · 12/05/2019 11:39

OP: AIBU?
100% of Mumsnet + neighbours wife: yes you selfish arse!
OP: well I'm not! I've got kids!

TheEntertainerr · 12/05/2019 11:40

OP I think you're getting unfair flack for this and take your post at face value, that there isn't anywhere else you could park (legally/safely). It also depends on how old your children as well.

The neighbour has asked you to not park there, whether the husband is genuinely returning shortly or she's being arsey because it's their spot is another matter. If you're in and able to move your car if need be, either knock and ask if you could use someone's spot or just park and leave a note on you're windscreen with your phone number so you can move if owner needs it. Or just parked in a spot whilst you unloaded and packed away the shopping and then park the seven minutes away.

This will be an ongoing problem, so it might be worth speaking to all of the new build neighbours to reach a general consensus over temporary using a each other's spots if someone's is taken.

I would also push the council or developer for residents' permits and for it to be enforced.

I can empathise with you. I used to live in a block of flats (one of two which shared off street residents parking), with no allocated parking and only 12 spaces for nearly 40 flats. It was also a stones throw from a football stadium. I didn't dare do a supermarket shop on a match day because the of having to successfully find a parking spot and then trudging backwards and forwards with a baby/toddler and shopping bags, then and having to climb three flights of stairs.

bluebeck · 12/05/2019 11:41

Are you usually this thick OP?

You are EQUALLY BAD as the person who parked in your space. You are a cheeky fucker.

Move your car.

rwalker · 12/05/2019 11:41

Move your car or you are as bad as the person who parked in your space .If it was beyond the realms of possibility to park else where you should of knocked neighbour and explained and offered to move straight away when neighbours dh returned and apologised.

pepperpot99 · 12/05/2019 11:42

This reply has been deleted

This isn't really in the spirit of the site

Eustasiavye · 12/05/2019 11:42

Write a note and stick it on the offending car stating that they are parked in your space and telling them not to do it again.
Make sure you cellophane it very firmly into their windscreen.

TheInvestigator · 12/05/2019 11:42

Parking their for a couple of minutes to empty the shopping was fine. You get the shopping in your door then get back in the car and go move it somewhere you are allowed to park. But you didn't do that.

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 11:42

he works all day usually and is never home until very late

So the poor man is going to come home, probably exhausted, then has to stop his car, find out from his wife who has parked in his spot (if he doesn’t know you) go to your door and wait while you finish faffing about with the children/dinner/whatever, ask you to move your car, then you’ll probably faff about with the kids some more (cause you’re a special mummy). You’ll eventually move the car so he can finally park and get into his own home, AFTER FUCKING WORKING ALL DAY!

Seriously OP? Can you not see how selfish you’re being. I hope he bawls you out.

Original poster
NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 11:43

Well there is still 4 spaces available to the left that he could use, which again is in sight of his house. Like 5 steps away.
I didn't want to use any of them as they are notorious for coming back and forth whereas the husband is out all day and by the looks of it isn't coming back anytime "soon"

OP posts:
MulticolourMophead · 12/05/2019 11:43

Move your flaming car.

Yes, you can be cross that someone is in your space. But now you're doing exactly the same thing to your neighbour.

It's totally irrelevant if the space is going to be empty. It's still their space and you're parking in it. So move.

Fairenuff · 12/05/2019 11:44

So I'm not allowed to be annoyed that somebody has used my space as a free for all?!

Hello OP's neighbour. Yes, of course you have a right to be annoyed. We have all told her to leave but she's a princess. Put some birdseed on her roof and let the bird come.

TheInvestigator · 12/05/2019 11:44

So you want him to park in someone else space??? And what if they are all home when he gets back.

His wife owns the rights to that space. She has told you to move. Which part of that are you struggling to understand?

Original poster
NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 11:44

Oh oh I think the culprit is headed back to the car!!!

OP posts:
MsRabbitRocks · 12/05/2019 11:45

So go out there then Hmm

JacquesHammer · 12/05/2019 11:45

So go out and tell them it’s your space and ask them not to park there again.

Move your car.

Don’t be a CF in future

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 11:46

Well there is still 4 spaces available to the left that he could use

Yeah, but maybe he’s not a selfish prick that likes to inconvenient other people.

MonicaGB · 12/05/2019 11:46

Oh for God's sake, move your fucking car. Don't be a total dick and do what someone else is doing to you.

Fairenuff · 12/05/2019 11:46

By the time she gets out there with the kids, they'll be gone.

Kel801 · 12/05/2019 11:46

Yes you are being unreasonable, not your space move. However I expect you wanted a different response

TheInvestigator · 12/05/2019 11:46

No one really cares about that anymore. Normmaly, mumsnet is on your side when someone has stolen your spot but your attitude has sort of made you the bad guy here. You're just far too entitled.