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AIBU?

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Original poster

It's a parking one!!

256 replies

NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 09:45

So we live in a relatively new build which has 6 designated spaces (think 1A, 1B, 1C and so on)

I'm not long back and there is a car in my space, so I parked in the one next to me. The next door neighbour came out and asked me to move as her husband is due back soon.
But move where!!

AIBU?

OP posts:
AdobeWanKenobi · 12/05/2019 11:16

I've not inconvenienced anybody though, the husband hasn't come home

You know that car in your space? It wasn't inconveniencing you because you weren't home. But now you are.

Lazypuppy · 12/05/2019 11:16

You can't just park in someone elses space Shock

When i had that issue when i lived in a block of flats i just went and knocked on every flat to find who owned the car

Original poster
NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 11:18

I posted because I didn't think I was in the wrong, if he comes to the door I would move it but I'm hoping the culprit will be back before then

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WindsweptEgret · 12/05/2019 11:18

Op- why don't you just move your car 7 minutes walk away?
This. If you find yourself in this situation you just put the shopping away and then move the car, surely? Confused

S1naidSucks · 12/05/2019 11:18

Sprinkle bird seed or bread over the top of it and watch the birds crap on it.

Or alternatively, climb onto the top of it and crap on it yourself.

Flip it on its back and watch it struggle like a turtle. I may be getting slightly carried away.

NorthernKnickers · 12/05/2019 11:21

You are a dick! I can't even...🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

DramaLlama32 · 12/05/2019 11:21

Would you park on your neighbours drive if yours was blocked? They are paying for that space as part of their rent so move your car and park 7 mins away and walk like everyone else would have to with kids. I lived in a flat and regularly had my space taken but I didn't dream of taking my neighbours aswell and I had a small baby too!

TheInvestigator · 12/05/2019 11:21

So he has to plonk his car somewhere random, then come get you, then get back to his car and park it. And he will need to wait for you to gather up your kids and take them out and put them in your car and all that nonsense.

The wife owns that space as much as he does. It's theirs. She has told you to move so move.

Itssosunny · 12/05/2019 11:21

If your parking space is just for your flat then you have to park there only or somewhere else so yes, park behind the other car and leave a note.

donquixotedelamancha · 12/05/2019 11:21

Cant park behind them as it's just curbs

So its a series of linear spaces in a lay-by?

Park right up against them in the other side neighbour's space- leave a note on your car and watch for that neighbour to make sure you aren't inconveniencing them. Then ask the first neighbour's husband to do the same when he comes home.

When they return, have a polite chat and make clear they are not to do this again before they move.

my2bundles · 12/05/2019 11:22

You have already been asked to move your car, why are you waiting for to return with his car before you move?

ColdCottage · 12/05/2019 11:25

Ask your neighbour to watch the children for 8 mins whilst you move your car.

LettuceP · 12/05/2019 11:27

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ This is ridiculous. Move your car ffs!

my2bundles · 12/05/2019 11:28

Op I don't drive. I do have a parking space which I consider to be my drive. Guests park on it etc I would be mighty annoyed if randoms assumed it's a free for all just because it's not in use right now. Move your car.

Marmablade · 12/05/2019 11:28

You've been asked. Just move it to one of the other neighbour's free spaces with a note and your number saying what's happened and you'll move it as soon as the person needs it.

Original poster
NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 11:29

No he had a space just a stones throw from his house too, he isn't having to walk miles Hmm like I said I used their one as he works all day usually and is never home until very late

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Original poster
NCforThisO1 · 12/05/2019 11:30

So I'm not allowed to be annoyed that somebody has used my space as a free for all?!

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WindsweptEgret · 12/05/2019 11:32

You have done the same thing as the person who parked in your space though. You can't just make it your neighbour's problem instead.

Lazypuppy · 12/05/2019 11:32

Of course you can be annoyed!just don't be suprised when someone gets annoyed with you for doing the same thing

CountryPlumpkin · 12/05/2019 11:33

You are allowed to be annoyed that someone has parked in your space.

But by parking in someone else’s space, you are no better than the selfish twerp in your space. It’s hypocritical. Just move your car.

Morgan12 · 12/05/2019 11:34

Ffs go move your car.

Someone took your space.
You're annoyed.

You have now took someone else's space.
They are annoyed.

It's like talking to a fucking brick wall!

TidyDancer · 12/05/2019 11:35

You can certainly be annoyed but you do not have the right to cause that annoyance for someone else. You've been asked to move so you need to do it immediately, it doesn't matter if the owner won't be back for a while. Find a way to block the CF in or move your car to the 7 minutes away parking.

flowery · 12/05/2019 11:35

”So I'm not allowed to be annoyed that somebody has used my space as a free for all?!”

You asked whether you were BU for parking in your neighbour’s space and refusing to move/expecting her to find you alternative parking arrangements.

Can’t believe you thought anyone would think you weren’t BU for that!

TheInvestigator · 12/05/2019 11:35

But if you're in that space then he can't park in it! So has to leave his car somewhere else and deal with you!! No one is this stupid so stop acting like it and move your car.

The car parked in your space is a separate issue and had you just posted about that then everyone would be agreeing with you. That part is annoying and they did something wrong.

But that doesn't mean you can park in someone else's space!!! The wife owns that space. She has told you to move. Move.

flowery · 12/05/2019 11:36

You can’t complain that someone’s behaviour is annoying and then repeat that behaviour yourself!