MIL & my baby DS.. thoughts?

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MIL comes to visit DS every 2-3 days. He's 11 days old today.

At first I had no problems with her visiting a lot. I had a EMCS and wasn't feeling great at all for the first week or so and was knackered and she helped out a lot.

Its not the visiting that annoys me so much, it's the fact that she keeps hold of him for the few hours that she's here. She wants to feed him, change him, wind him and I actually have to ask to have my baby back!

If any other family members pick him up she wants him back less than 5 minutes later. It's as though she's extremely jealous of anyone else having him.

She also told me she wakes up during the early hours of the morning to look at pictures of him because she misses him

What to think of this?

I think a bit of tact and diplomacy is needed here, gently reduce the visits

My mum and grandma had many babies. They would have happily had someone else mind the bigger ones to give them a break. Definitely not so keen to have someone walk off with the new baby!

What happened OP? Did she visit today?

She doesn't need to see DS. Stick to your guns.

Even if this means making other plans most days for the next month or so, in the long term it is worth it.