Husband Business trip Bangkok

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My husband has insisted he needed to go on a work trip to Bangkok. From find my iPhone app I have found out he spent the first night in a go-go dancer/sex club. He left for a short period of time with drew £500 and returned. We have been married for 18 years and I feel absolutely disgusted by this. I am considering hiring a private detective to see what he gets up to. Any advice/thoughts greatly appreciated.

So he has confessed up to having sex with prostitues after completely backing him to a corner he is en route back to the Uk. I am heartbroken. So distressed yesterday that I have had to tell the kids that daddy has been unfaithful to me. They are distraught. No idea what to do now??

I'm so sorry. What a blow.

Take it one step at a time how old are you’re dc op?

I’m so sorry to read your update. Don’t take him back, this probably isn’t the first time he’s done this and won’t be the last either.

I know it’s not what you want to hear but I’d book yourself in for an STD check.

Sorry to hear your update op. How old are your children? Have you got family around that can support you? Like a previous poster has said, probably the last thing you want to do at the moment, but please get yourself checked out.

Yes, I’ve lived in Asia. Of course, it’s a place people go for business. What I mean is, it’s not the sort of place your usual working person in the UK goes to on business. Finance, investment within Asian markets, import/export, yes, but what I’m saying is if the OP’s dh works in managing an auto tyre centre or in insurance with no professional ties to Asia, it’s highly unlikely his employer will have ‘insisted’ he go on a business trip. The OP’s suspicions were obviously raised that this might not be a real ‘business’ trip.

I work in an field where travel to Bangkok would be quite ordinary (why I lived and worked nearby), but I don’t know many who do. KL, Singapore, Hong Kong, Dubai, etc, yes, but sounds like alarm bells were ringing for the OP even before the cash withdrawal that something isn’t right about this trip.

Yuk. Disgusting old pervert. Some of those Thai girls are so young.

OP, sorry hear your update. What a bloody bastard.

So sorry to hear this

Always remember family story my mum and Dad told me. My dad went on a trip there and he was sat in his hotel restaurant. There was a clear vase and next to it 6 roses. My dad put all the roses in the vase. 6 girls cake to his room and he was horrified 😂🤦🏼‍♀️ My dad is the geeky loyal type to a fault. He’s still in the honeymoon phrase with my Mum and they met 40 years ago.

Op don’t jump to any conclusions until you know. Things can be misunderstood. Xx

OP, if it was me I would be changing the locks before he gets back or moving myself and the children out.

Came*

Jesus. What a fucking disgusting piece of shit.

I'm sorry Op. how old are the children?
Please get yourself checked out and ask him to stay elsewhere until you've decided how to proceed.

Well that’s him out of the house then.
Sorry

OP how old are your children you refer to him as daddy so I'm guessing they're young if they are please don't tell them daddy has been unfaithful to you that is not their burden to bare. I am sorry it turned out this way.

BreastFeedingWorries you are talking absolute shite. Honestly.

I’d be another one to caution against concluding that somebody is in a particular venue- even if the iPhone dot is over a label for that venue- although my view would depend on context. Whilst it might be compelling evidence for a stand-alone premises in the countryside, In a tightly packed city there could be dozens of other things within the margin of GPS error.

Omg why tell the kids? I get you're distraught , fair enough deal with it with your friends and family . Pack DH stuff and tell the kids he's going away for a bit!! Unless they're approaching adulthood telling them will cause confusion and distress - trauma. Please don't do that to them no matter how much you're hurting. Sending love though , can't imagine how you are feeling xx