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To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

248 replies

Phuquocdreams · 05/05/2019 09:14

Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

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notangelinajolie · 05/05/2019 11:31

Yes to both the following suggestions - apart from the no drama bit in the second one. I think putting candles on an already cut cake and singing happy birthday is great drama and definitely a photo opportunity for facebook. Do it OP Smile -

Very cheeky indeed! Out them with a photo on FB or whatsapp or whatever you use. "Who has helped themselves to my uncut birthday cake?"

Oh, it doesn't matter. Do candles and singing with the kids. Make a joke of someone not being able to wait for their slice. Cut the rest up and dole it out. No drama.

Beachbodynowayready · 05/05/2019 11:33

Non party goers helping themselves is cheeky as fuck!!

ballsdeep · 05/05/2019 11:34

Even if people didn't want it at the time, it's usually cut up and sent home? No wonder people took a slice 😂

JenniferJareau · 05/05/2019 11:37

Greedy fuckers for cutting it, clearly it shouldn't have been cut unless by you.

Dippypippy1980 · 05/05/2019 11:39

It is really rude to make the first cut in a birthday cake.

Are these babysitters young adults? If they are I would make a joke out of it - a where are your manners young lady, that was to be the centre piece at lunch then I, as the birthday girl, would have the privilege of the first cut!

If they are fully fledged adults, then I would have to let it go but still seethe. Some people just have poor social skills and manners - if you have children this could be a lesson to them - how not to complain.

notangelinajolie · 05/05/2019 11:41

Actually thinking through this again. Spare a thought for the 2 disappointed cake buyers who had gone to so much trouble to get it to the party for you and you didn't even cut it.
And the icing on the cake not only that - they have kindly offered to babysit.
Maybe they just though sod it - if she doesn't want it …. we do.

Dippypippy1980 · 05/05/2019 11:46

If I felt annoyed that the cake I bought hadn’t been eaten I would have called the birthday girl down and insisted she cut the cake for morning coffee

ChicCroissant · 05/05/2019 11:52

Seems to be a lot of food thieves around on MN this morning Hmm

Beachbodynowayready · 05/05/2019 11:52

Babysitting isn't free reign to whatever you want!!
Poster once had ils babysitting and the mil ate a whole box of unopened chocs!!
Would make me pay a proper babysitter!!

Durgasarrow · 05/05/2019 11:53

I wouldn't be surprised if the people who bought the cake might have want some at least offered to guests at the party. There's a difference between main course hunger and dessert hunger. I would feel surprised if not one person wanted a slice of what was reportedly a gorgeous birthday cake, even if there was other food on offer. I would be saving room for it if it was that good looking! I think it is parsimonious not to cut a birthday cake at a birthday party. The reason it would look stupid to bring a cake with a slice cut out of it to one party is because it would look as if it came from a different party,. Which is the very fact you are trying to hide.

MollysLips · 05/05/2019 11:56

How do you "send" a cake home? Do they have Uber accounts? Can they actually walk? In which case, can I request your cake comes to my house?

DarlingNikita · 05/05/2019 12:40

How do you "send" a cake home?

Read the thread properly? OP says 'Cake sent home in taxi, together with some presents'.

FuriousVexation · 05/05/2019 12:40

"They might actually be rather annoyed that they bought you the cake and you even didn't even bother to cut and serve it at the party. They may well feel you didn't appreciate it."

Genuine question; whos life would have been better

diddl · 05/05/2019 13:11

"might have want some at least offered to guests at the party."

Perhaps it was?

Or do you think that Op was "stuffed" & therefore assumed everyone else was?

Quartz2208 · 05/05/2019 13:24

So 2 family members bought you a lovely cake for your birthday celebrations with friends. They then babysat for you - whilst babysitting a taxi driver knocked on the door to give them the cake and presents (which wasnt part of the plan as clearly your DH decided upon it) and you had decided to continue the celebrations in a cocktail bar.

Nothing was said about what you wanted to do with the cake as you had initially thought you would cut and eat at the restaurant which was why they bought it.

So they ate it. yeah I can see why

GreenTulips · 05/05/2019 13:27

Sorry but if I brought friend X a dress or top or bag and didn’t see them in it - does that mean I can help myself?
If they didn’t smell of the perfum I gave - can I ask for it back?

It’s OPs cake and she had yet to ‘open’ the gift - doesn’t give anyone else the right to help themselves does it?

Alsohuman · 05/05/2019 13:34

I’d have cut it and eaten the slice I’d just cut if I’d paid for the damn thing and it was apparently so unappreciated that it had just been used as a prop at a party.

recrudescence · 05/05/2019 14:47

Rage is a rather childish reaction to trivial setbacks but it happens to the best of us, however old we get. Nevertheless, we can choose not to be a baby about things and I that’s what you should do. May all your troubles be as little as this.

Ginseng1 · 05/05/2019 15:04

I would have left the fancy cake for the family lunch today. Not brought it out on a boozy night out to be a centrepiece n sending it home in a taxi untouched to be used for round two of the candle blowing session. (sure you might even have got round 3 out of it if they all stuffed after lunch today Grin) That said I wouldn't cut into another person's birthday cake without asking either. I wonder were they making a point?!

RedForShort · 05/05/2019 17:06

I'd be planning on gushing about the cake, opening the box in front of everyone and then crying
Good grief! Planned sorrow. How odd.

Maybe OP hasn't been back for a while because last night started slowing piecing together and the memory of eating a giant slice cake sudden pinged into her head.

VampirateQueen · 05/05/2019 17:16

Not RTFT I'll admit, but I was always lead to believe that it is the person who's birthday it is that cuts the cake, unless they are a child obviously, or you at least ask if you can cut it.

Waveysnail · 05/05/2019 17:17

You were rude not cutting the cake at the party

notacooldad · 05/05/2019 17:29

Raging? Seriously?
A bit miffed especially when you had planned on cutting it that night previous. It would have been cut if everybody wasnt so stuffed.
From my point of view I couldn't have cared less, it's the cake had served its purpose at the party.
Raging is just OTT.

Yabbers · 05/05/2019 17:35

You’re essentially upset because you didn’t get to blow the candles out on your cake twice?

YABU.

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 05/05/2019 20:06

I bet op cut it last night in a drunken munch and totally forgot. Or dh did.

Op has been avoiding all questions relating to who the babysitters are! Funny?

You paid babysitter would be rude you mil who paid for the cake you were rude for not texting her. “Cake and gifts on their way home in taxi, thank you for cake we were too stuffed but will enjoy tomorrow, please help your self to a slice, thanks again for babysitting’’

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