AIBU to demand school let my daughter go to the toilet whenever she needs to?

[Janel85]

DD is 6 and has been having repeat urine infections since November. She has had kidney ultrasound and has a mild drainage problem. Long story short ended up in hospital last night because dd caught a bug. Couldn’t keep down any water or antibiotics and hadn’t been a wee in over 12 hours. The mild kidney dilation will be investigated further but doctor thinks the reason for repeat UTIs at DDs age is likely to be down to stagnation, holding onto her wee for too long because she feels uncomfortable going at school. Spoke to DD and apparently the policy of her teacher is that the children can only use the toilet at break times and snack time and if you ask at any other time then the answer is no. I think this is making my daughter very ill and it’s wrong AIBU?

Of course kids should be able to go to the loo when they need to - medical evidence or not. A good teacher will make some judgement of course (e.g. as PP asking if they can wait 5 minutes). Even as an adult I've needed to go to the loo during a film or meeting before as it was a hot day and I'd drunk alot - likewise kids should be encouraged to go at playtime but it won't always work. Some children will get very anxious about not being allowed to go or might have developed a funny tummy and need to go ASAP it would be massively inappropriate to stop them and I hope no teacher would attempt it.

What a strange deletion!