Engagement party disaster

[tonymac]

NC as potentially outing.

I had my engagement party on Saturday and it descended into slight chaos. To me, usual family drama, which ended up in a bit of a scuffle - my partner was joint equally to blame for it all - along with some random distant cousin who I've not seen for years.

I was annoyed, ofcourse I was - but I've been around long enough to know these things happen. I'd have preferred it didn't obviously, but I had a bit of a moan when we got home, and then put it behind me and forgot about it. It was an excellent night bar 5 minutes at the end and for me, it can all be forgotten about.

However, one of my friends (who was right in about it all and gave my stepfather a total mouthful of abuse for telling her to go away and stop antagonising the situation) just won't let it go. She's messaging me daily asking how things are and if my partner is still trying to make it up to me. Going on and on about how ridiculous she thinks the whole situation was and how she's so hurt for me. I do appreciate her concern and I know she's just looking out for me, but all I really want to do is forget about it. It's water off a ducks back for me and what's annoying me most is everyone still talking about it a week later.

AIBU to tell her for the millionth time that it's fine and I'm over it and no I'm not leaving DP for it, only with a sprinkling of back the heck off before we fall out included this time?

I'm frankly astounded that a scuffle is considered so unusual

...says more about you than the rest of us.

Your so called 'Friend' is loving the Drama and relishes stirring up shit and will continue to do so until you tell her to mind her own fucking business.

not everyone's family are Little House on the Prairie.

Your life, your choices.

OP, it really isn't normal for there to be a scuffle at an engagement party. Trust me, I've been to plenty of similar events with my massively fucked up family and not once has it ever descended into violence.

Your friend sounds like she's trying to make you see this really isn't normal. Because it isn't. Drunken arguments, yeah. Fisticuffs, no.

As for 'total mouthful of abuse' you don't know what she said. Interesting your SF won't tell you. Perhaps she was telling those involved to calm the fuck down and stop ruining your night. It's a possibility.

Meh. People do occasionally have a scrap or get inadvertently involved in one when the booze is flowing. And fucking posh public schoolboys are among the worst for drunken fighting, so less of the 'EEWWWW, PROLES', eh?

You all seem to have missed the bit where OP said that her DP didn't start the fight and has never been physically aggressive to her or anyone else before - and that the dodgy cousin started it. It's actually sort of OK to punch someone who physically attacks you, you know.

I have never seen someone throw a punch at a party. It isn’t normal and it is a big deal. Your friend keeps reaching out to

Reaching out to you because she is concerned both by what happened and your dismissive attitude.

No I wasn't being sarcastic(to the pp who suggested this). It just sounds as though the friend was enjoying the drama, hurling abuse at the stepfather, and getting stuck in where she had no business. Now she wants to keep it going, rather than treat it as a storm in a teacup.

Just text her back "This is my final word on this matter: I had a great night, I want to remember it fondly, I am fine with what happened and had forgotten it until you keep bringing it up. STOP it! It's annoying and frankly since you were in the thick of it being mouthy I would have thought you would want to forget it too. No more, no reply, no mention, it is over!"

I dont know why people are giving OP such a. Hard time. She wants to forget it, that’s that.

OP you need to tell the friend to stop going on about it. She’s clearly revealing in the drama

I don't think its that unusual. I broke up many a scuffle when I was a barmaid, usually between friends/family rather than strangers and all forgotten in the morning. Christenings were the worst for it!

Yes I was going to say pub fights are common enough. Similar thing isn’t it? Too much booze, someone spilt my pint etc

Christenings!

You are in your shite a solicitor 😂😂😂

Stay classy, OP!

Why couldn’t she be a solicitor? Despite the comments on this thread berating her, OP hasn’t actually done anything is her families behaviour her fault then?

As a solicitor you seem perfectly suited to emphasise with many of your future clientele...

The naivety of the people thinking her friend is acting out of concern. She’s fucking loving it.

I know dizzy 🤣

@IvanaPee contrary to popular opinion, it's not actually a requirement of the practising certificate to be a stuck up snob. Some of us aren't even privately educated! 🙂

Thanks @Passthecherrycoke! My thoughts exactly

If OP really wants this forgotten and over then the best thing to do would be to start a thread about it on mumsnet.

Why would she want it over and forgotten when by her own admission it’s perfectly normal at all her social excursions?

There’s quite a range of behaviour between “stuck up snob” and punch throwing baboon, op.

Yep rabbit! I think its the combination of an early start, day drinking and not much food..

Amazed the OP is getting such a hard time!! Drinks having a scuffle is by no means unusual. I worked in a pub and saw many, many drunken scraps.
Op your friend is obviously revelling in this. I would be direct and tell her to stop bringing it up.

“If OP really wants this forgotten and over then the best thing to do would be to start a thread about it on mumsnet”

Why, because that will really highlight it back to the consciousness of those who attended?

I don’t see what difference it makes whether it’s perfectly normal. It’s perfectly normal to fall over drunk, doesn’t mean I want to keep being reminded of it, it’s still embarrassing