Why does MN hate baby showers?

[SnakesBarmitzvah]

I’m curious.

I’ve read many comments about how gross and tacky they are. I don’t really get the big deal?

Also gender reveals.

I have had two colleagues who had late term miscarriages. I am glad I declined any pre-natal celebrations.

They make me massively cringe
They are greedy
Tacky
I have been invited to many but refuse to go to them
Fancy buying gifts for a baby that isn’t even here yet?!

Inviting people round to give you stuff.
OK, I guess if a close friend organises it because a group of friends want to do it. But yes, generally tacky.

Tacky, cringey, boring, grabby.

Let's all get together and celebrate a major life change with a friend who's not going to have as much time to spend with us soon. Let's show her some sort before a scary and painful thing. Let's mark that event with a gift.

OH THE HORROR!

Because a) no one cares and it’s boring
b) it’s an American thing and Brits don’t like American things (still upset about loosing the war methinks)
c) the expectation for expensive gifts is very poor taste/money grabbing
d) the upper class haven’t been doing it for centuries for the insecure middle (basically everyone on mn) make a point of shunning non-upper class approved traditions thinking it makes them look more ‘posh’

I think that covers all bases

Oh and bad luck

Snobbery, basically. Plus the chance to sneer at 'Americanisms'. Mostly by people who have never been to one.

I've been to many, and none of them were grabby, tacky or anything else.

Oh and as for gender reveals, who the fuck cares enough to go to your ridiculous party to find out?
It's very self centred, get over yourself and remember you aren't the first person to have a baby.

Agree it's seems tacky and all about me. Hate the idea just because America does it why do we have to follow suit?

Baby showers= grabby (why do you need presents before and after the baby is born??) and attention seeking

Gender reveal= just pure attention seeking. Your baby’s sex (not gender!) doesn’t interest anyone but you. Really. Genuinely, no one cares. It’s either boy or girl. No-one is surprised by the outcome.

Another tacky import from over the pond. Grabby, garish and horrible.

I don't really mind baby showers, pregnancy can be fairly shite and it's a nice way to make a bit of a fuss of an expectant mother. As long as its fairly laid back and not expensive, everyone bring food to share type of thing as opposed to fancy £50 a head afternoon tea.

I see them as grabby and entitled. The way it’s done in the UK is quite different to the US tradition where someone else chooses to “shower” the pregnant woman with gifts and hosts the shower on their behalf. Most of the people that I know here that have had them are very materialistic and all out for what they can get. It’s definitely been all about the gifts for them!

FlashingLights101 the purpose of a baby shower is for the pregnant woman to get a load of presents. How could that possibly not be tacky and granny?

Let's all get together and celebrate a major life change with a friend who's not going to have as much time to spend with us soon. Let's show her some sort before a scary and painful thing. Let's mark that event with a gift.

OH THE HORROR!

This.

Luckily for me, I actually like my friends so am not resentful of spending time/money on them at important moments in their lives.

Grabby!

Because there’s a lot of snobs on here.

Because I don't think we should ever assume the baby will arrive here safe and healthy. I always send my friends a present for the baby AFTER the baby has been safely delivered. But that's apparently old-fashioned.

Just another attention seeking excuse to ask for presents. Tacky.

About as selfish and self centered as a "push present"

I think baby showers are greedy. It's like saying 'come and shower me with gifts'

Some even have a gift register and charge you £25 per head for the honour of attending the tea party or lunch!