To think my DH elder son should not be sleeping in his mums bed everynight?

[babybelqueen]

My DH had a previous relationship , and has a lovely son who is 10 years old.. will be going into secondary school next year. He is bright, clever funny and just does what normal kids do. We get on really well.

Anyway, my DH and his ex only speak purely for the sake of their son which I understand ( I never get involved in any conversation as it is not my place , he is their child and that is that )

BUT me and DH are starting to become concerned about the fact that he is openly honest about sleeping in his mums bed every night -

I have an 18 month old, so I have no idea whether this is normal or not? The only thing I can link it to, is because maybe of his parents splitting when he was young and now he sometimes feels insecure?

But also when he comes and stops with us, he is more than happy to sleep alone in his own room.

I just don't want him to go to secondary school and get picked on because of it, and neither does his Dad.

What are your thoughts, is this normal ?

OP if your husband is concerned he should speak to his ex and to his son.

Asking strangers on the internet (or getting a third party to ask) is not the best way to resolve any issue.

@Maggiesfarm

I think the op genuinely doesn't know if it is, or isn't acceptable. A lot of people don't, especially here in the UK. I hope we have reassured her.

Have you seen how long ago the OP was posted?

Yes I do think he will continue to do so as we keep eachother good company

Nah I don’t get enough so I load up at night

He might have grown out of it in the past couple of years now he's 12.

It well could be insecurity. My parents separated when I was about 10. I lived with my Dad and (I know poster's will think it's terrible because it's my Dad and not Mum) but I had to sleep top tail in his room for years because I suddenly went from being fine in my own room to being really scared and insecure. My Mum abandoned us basically and I was terrified I'd lose my Dad at the same time. That to my child mind made me very clingy with him (poor Dad 🤣) especially at night where I got very panicky about it.

Even when I got older I used to love putting the pull out bed up in his room when he'd no longer let me sleep in the same bed!

My dd 9yrs ends up in my bed most nights. She starts off in her bedroom & then ends up in mine around 3am. She's always been like this & we both sleep better together. Nothing wrong with it at all & normal in many cultures.

Why do you keep bumping this zombie thread, Mummalove22? That’s 3 or 4 times now? Just start your own thread, please.