OP has argued herself insideout here (as well as revealing the predictable scorn society currently offers women who really enjoy motherhood). Work is so much easier and she found it more stimulating, enjoyable, and fulfilling than raising children - but she has no desire to work outside the home. She thinks sleep is the most important thing to share equally and everything else can be divided any old way one sees fit, even if that results in a completely stereotypical formula that entirely reinforces the idea that men earn and women tend to their household, whereas the stereotype that WOHP partners need a reliably good night's sleep more than SAHPs who have more flexibility in how they arrange their days is COMPLETELY INSUPPORTABLE. And yeah, unless you present a shiny smily face to your hubby when he comes home from work he'll be having an affair, because men can't possibly love a woman who doesn't "take care of herself" and value the effort she is putting in with their child can he? They need to see your smily face and your hair done!
The idea you are out there to challenge women's oppression by stereotypes is....well... Laughable really.
And I agree with PP that this thread is largely being contributed to by people with limited or no experience of breastfeeding (not surprising given the national stats).
Waking to feed your child 8 times a night is not unusual; no no 6+ month old nutritionally needs that many bottles in a night,and if you fed a baby that much formula you'd be endangering them frankly. But a breastfeed can be a half hour guzzle or a couple of sips; it promotes a swift return to sleep, and if co-sleeping can be done by both parties without ever fully coming to. It is an invaluable tool with a frequent waker ime. And it is something only the mother can do, unless she wants the ballache if expressing (and unless she actually can express, and unless her baby will actually take a bottle). I found flipping a boob out while half asleep a great deal less bother than that.
But that's me. Other parents do things differently. And That's OK. I don't require them to do things my way to validate my choices. And I didn't need everyone to be breastfeeding to give me the motivation to breastfeed into toddlerhood - wouldn't have done it if I did as hardly anybody does. The "stereotype promoted" in all the literature and cultural references on babies (and on this thread as well!) is that babies are bottle fed, at least once past a few months. And yet, because breastfeeding was important to me, I was able to see past that and do it my own way.
I imagine if equal sleep is as important to a mother, and her husband isn't a total penis, she will manage to see past the "stereotype" of mothers who do night wakings "because the husband works" and ensure that night wakings are shared. After all OP you did. But I suppose you must be very very special.