WIBU to make them sit outside?

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DH thinks I was.

A couple of weeks ago a parent from the school run turned up unannounced at my door saying she thought our children might like to play and that she fancied a catch-up.
I made them stay outside on the driveway (back garden unusable atm) and brought toys for the children to play with and chairs for us to it on, outside.

DH brought it up tonight, he saw her whilst shopping and she mentioned she felt a bit down after being here.

My argument is that I have told her before that I don’t appreciate visitors and will rarely invite them inside. I provided a drink for her and brought out blankets when the temperature cooled.

WIBU?

@DontVisitMe - because being so profoundly anti-social is so outside the realms of normal for most people, that they assume there must be some serious reason for it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Most people just welcome people into their homes without dissolving and/or imploding.

Oh fgs people this is a vulnerable poster with mh issues, stop the nasty posts.

I do think that the facility to name change is there for this very reason so that any poster has choice in the matter as to whether others can view history. I change my name all the time so that the trail would be cold if anyone went looking which if course they are entitled to do.

Surely the issue is what a poster's history is being used for (i.e. is it "in the spirit")?

There's another thread running currently where the OP's previous thread on the same subject is being widely referred to in order to provide context and help support her further. The OP clearly has no problem with it and no deletions have been made.

Using posting history to bully and stick the boot in is clearly a different matter.

I don't think most MN users need that to be spelt out in the talk guidelines to know what is across the line and what isn't.

@PCohle agree and I know what hat other thread you’re talking about.

Yes AS can help identify trolls but the correct thing to do is to report the thread and tell MNHQ in your report what you have seen- not quote the other threads. In fact, the guidelines are quite clear that troll hunting of any sort is frowned upon. You report and leave them to it, you don’t make accusations on the thread, no matter how sure you are that you have them bang to rights.

I don't think anyone is disagreeing with you there Jessie. But it's irrelevant in this context, no one is suggesting the op is a troll. It was simply a discussion on the rationale behind as and why some posts were deleted on this thread.. Those posts were absolutely not deleted because people were troll hunting.

Sure, agree with that Bluntness but you were the one who mentioned that AS was helpful for identifying trolls so I was just adding some comments about how it should be used, because the start of the discussion had been about quoting old threads in a new thread so it was possible that some might extrapolate that it was OK to quote other threads if you thought OP was a troll.