WIBU to make them sit outside?

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DH thinks I was.

A couple of weeks ago a parent from the school run turned up unannounced at my door saying she thought our children might like to play and that she fancied a catch-up.
I made them stay outside on the driveway (back garden unusable atm) and brought toys for the children to play with and chairs for us to it on, outside.

DH brought it up tonight, he saw her whilst shopping and she mentioned she felt a bit down after being here.

My argument is that I have told her before that I don’t appreciate visitors and will rarely invite them inside. I provided a drink for her and brought out blankets when the temperature cooled.

WIBU?

she was told repeatedly not to call

How do you know that Ivana? OP has not told us the exact words she used.

I've encountered the OP before.

On someone else's thread she wrote: Why are you posting on Aibu if You is sure You is reasonable? Just get on with your life and stop giving a fuck what people on the net may think which is rather pot and kettle.

On another thread she wrote: I have a visitor about once per year, other than my mother (would be rude to refuse her). I’m happy with that and I have acquaintences, if they knock on my door uninvited then I don’t answer, perfectly fine I think.

Having had a good look at some of their other postings over the years, I have generally felt it best not to engage.

Jessie OP has said a few times that she told the woman she didn’t want her at her house!

Yes, in OP’s mind that is the message that she communicated. But we don’t know what she actually said. I talked about this in my post at 08:36.

Shatner

Yes I've read similar posts

This threads a bit like Ground hog day.

Do pity her DH and DC slightly

Something feels rather sinister about it all somehow.

I don't think she did say to her she didn't want her at her house, nor did she t o her not to call. She said she told her she dislikes visitors and rarely invites them in. Clearly this is open to interpretation, and the friend may have not thought this meant her, or if it did the op would have declined th visit. Clearly the friend didn't realise how extreme it was. Few would.

The op obviously should have been clearer and said no one is allowed in my house other than my mother once a year for a short visit. So if you turned up I wouldn't let you in.

But I think it's hard to express that without looking rude and weird. Hence why there was likely some confusion here. She likely didn't see herself as a "visitor" as such, which could indicate a more formal visit. But more she was just dropping into a mates for a coffee and a catch up.

How utterly bizarre!

Something feels rather sinister about it all somehow

I agree, if a Woman posted that her husband would never allow her or dc's friends in the house their would be screams of abuse and to ltb.

Appallingly rude. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Bloody Hell Op

Sounds like you could do with some RL friends

You've obviously set the bar pretty low in your own relationship

Christ you have way too much time on your hands ShatnersWig. I don’t really understand who “her online friend” is or where she was boasting about him/her or what point you are trying to make but it’s not fair to OP to start bringing up other things posted in different contexts when answering a specific thread.

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I just don’t want randoms in my home.'

Do you equate other women as the 'randoms' your DH chooses to communicate with over yourself.

I think the problem with asking OP about how she phrased her ‘I don’t like visitors’ is that short of literally saying ‘I won’t let you in the house if you come round unannounced’ most people are going to take it as ‘I don’t let strangers in’ or ‘I don’t open the door if I’m not expecting anyone.

No one assumes the extreme position OP has taken, especially as it sounds like she’s previously been friendly.

Ffs Shatners is it really necessary to trawl through the Ops previous posts and then paste them here to hammer home your view? Over 700 posts later I'm pretty sure the Op has got the message and anyone with even half a brain reading this can work out that there are likely some "issues" here.

What the hell are you getting out of your Ooh and look at this, see what ELSE she said that makes her weird ? There's little doubt that the Ops behaviour is unusual but some of you are actually pretty fucking strange yourselves given the delight you're taking in pointing and laughing at a stranger on the Internet.

As for @Sofagirl I've been here a long time but yours is one of the most cruel posts I've seen on MN. I'd rather spend an afternoon shivering on Ops driveway than 5 minutes in the company of the nasty vicious piece of work who would post that.

Exactly Diana. This is why I don’t think OP has been as clear as she THINKS she has, because she failed to take into account the perspective of others when she said what she did and failed to make it clear to the listener that “Yes, this really does mean you!”. Her attitude is so unusual that it almost needs a “I know that this might seem strange to you but I really don’t like anyone visiting my house, no matter how well I know them, so I’m afraid you can’t ever come round to visit.”

This thread is like ground hog day.
It will spiral into a place where posters get more and more nasty, they will get deleted and the thread will get zapped.

Sofagirl would have been number one knitter at the guillotine I suspect...

@ImNotHappyaboutitPauline and @JessieMcJessie If you're one of the posters who have been on the receiving end of some of the OP's crap before, you might understand it a bit more. But my main reason for posting is that despite what you have stated, clearly the majority of people haven't worked out there are "issues" here or they wouldn't be posting as they have done for 30 pages. I have not laughed at the OP but hopefully now those who have been will perhaps understand a bit more where she is coming from and temper some of their more outrageous responses.

Tbh despite 100s of comments all saying the same thing the OP is incapable of accepting her behaviour is rude and bizarre.

Agree Shatners

Save any more posters wasting time with the more obscure suggestions etc,

Ffs Shatners is it really necessary to trawl through the Ops previous posts and then paste them here to hammer home your view? Over 700 posts later I'm pretty sure the Op has got the message and anyone with even half a brain reading this can work out that there are likely some "issues" here.

Absolutely agree. Searching though a poster’s other posts looking for evidence to strengthen an argument is really poor form.

It’s also really poor taste that over 700 posts later people are taking the opportunity to come on and put the boot in to the OP. Some really nasty posts here.

I think trawling through the OP's post history to dig up other examples of times you think she has behaved oddly is very unkind.

Most of the people posting "who haven't worked out there are issues here" just haven't RTFT.

There's no need to take such glee in bullying the OP. I hope this entire thread gets deleted soon.

Oh give over Shatners like hell were you posting all that to help other posters understand the Op better, you were enjoying it and inviting people to judge even more. More pot and kettle. Some of her other responses on some threads are downright bizarre and But you want sinister? Yeah sure, that's all intended to encourage understanding and temper responses .