To hate how I look now I'm older.

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I know it's ridiculous and probably quite shallow, but just lately I seem to have aged rapidly. I was horrified at my old looking face at the hairdressers earlier. I used to like the way I looked, was always told I was beautiful, now I feel invisibible. Anyone else mourn their lost looks?

'I'm so furious about this film. What is it about please?'

" i love this film so much i'm not going to give you a single tangible reason to watch it".

It's a chilling horror melodrama that contains tour de force performances by two icons of 20th century cinema.

Buy you carry on with your empty headed nonsense.

whatisgoingonwithmylife I would have said exactly the same at your age, I was literally at the height of my beauty (and yes I was beautiful with the body to match, I used to model so I’m not going to be modest it serves no purpose on this thread) but sadly despite staying the same weight, hitting the gym even more than I ever did and really looking after myself, I have aged and now starting the menopause it’s just going to get worse, I know I still look good for my age but I do miss my youthful looks, I really do.

Loved Baby Jane. That song sends shivers down my spine just thinking about it.

Nah. I know I look every year of my almost 50, but I also look pretty damned awesome.

I've come across too many obituaries of people I went to school with, lately. I'm appreciating what I have, tyvm.

I'm also starting to look and feel my age - 46. I was once very attractive, although, like others, I certainly didn't appreciate it at the time. In all honesty, I'm not actually terribly bothered about facial wrinkles or sprouting chin hairs etc. For me, it's that I've completely lost all sense of how to style myself now I'm approaching 50.
When I was young and slim, I could carry off wearing cheap fashion from high st stores, but not any more. I'm not massively overweight, but my shape has changed and I'm carrying at least an extra stone.
I haven't got a lot of disposable income to spend on clothes, and I'm just not sure what suits me any more - and I do think it's ageing, just falling back on the safety of what suited me ten years ago.
Likewise my hair - I've got long hair, but would love to get it cut into a shorter, more manageable style. But, I do think shorter hair needs regular cuts, and I just don't seem to have the time or the money to keep on top of it.
My sister is 3 years older than me, and looks fabulous. She's an artist though, and it shows in her sense of style - she wears clothes well, and instinctively knows what suits her. She can find clothes in a charity shop, adjust them and accessorise them, and looks amazing. I don't have that skill, at all.

I look shitter and fatter now I am 46, but I like myself now a lot better than when I looked good and slim in my 20s.
I’ll swap surface good looks for empathy, humour, fortitude and tenacity any day of the week. I get promotions instead of the sack, I feel gratitude rather than entitlement, I laugh at myself rather than others, I try to be good company rather than primped and preened...
Good looks are overrated.

My face isn’t too bad but I mourn the loss of my body. Breastfeeding ruined my fabulous boobs and pregnancy ruined my stomach. I can’t look at myself naked any more and hate being touched. A couple of years ago I looked normal, it’s all deteriorated so fast that I’m staggered and dismayed.

FFS stop crucifying yourselves in front of the mirror.

Baby Jane wasn’t ridiculed for aging, she was ‘ridiculed’ (for want of a better word) for being in denial about aging. It’s a great movie.

Someone asked above about teeth whitening. It is one of the many things I have done to try and make myself look younger and definitely one of the most effective.

And where are the films ridiculing old men for being in denial about aging?

I look OK at home but in the hairdresser's mirror I look 10 years older! For me it's my neck that really ages me. My face is still a little youthful but my neck's starting to sag. I'm in my 40s but have the neck of someone in their 50s. I wonder if it's been caused by years of Yoyo dieting.

Rufflecrow I cant name any films about men being in denial about aging but the phrase ‘the oldest swinger in town’ indicates that that sort of man exists and they are considered ridiculous.

I’ll swap surface good looks for empathy, humour, fortitude and tenacity any day of the week. I get promotions instead of the sack, I feel gratitude rather than entitlement, I laugh at myself rather than others, I try to be good company rather than primped and preened...
Good looks are overrated

That is a brilliant way of looking at ageing and I'm in total agreement. Being in my sixties, I obviously don't understand anyone in their twenties or thirties, or even forties, stressing about how they look because let's be honest, you are in your prime at that age. And just a few tweaks like a good haircut, some exercise and looking after your skin can make a remarkable difference.

Whereas when you get to 60 something, doing all those things help but don't really change you much. To be honest, I'm just glad to be here and make the most of life and sod the wrinkles.

I agree there's the Peter Stringfellow stereotype but I don't think boys and men are conditioned from a young age to fear becoming that stereotype or aging more generally. The 'Silver Fox' seems far more prevalent in popular culture. Wheras even the gorgeous Helen Mirrens of the world aren't ascribed that mythical sexual potency etc.

Quintella it's good that you've finally drummed up something constructive to say. Perhaps the intervening hours gave you ample time to actually watch the film you've been pop-referencing! Good for you

Getting older doesn't have to be awful. I feel far more confident and happy in my 50s that I ever did in my 20s and 30s. Yes I'm a wee bit heavier and the small waist is long gone, but so is the lack of confidence, the worry I'm not good enough or pretty enough and most of all the shit abusive 1st husband.

I'm happy now in a way I never was when was younger, more sure of myself and hope my face reflects my happiness, lines and all. I genuinely don't care about ageing, my father and my best friend both died far too young, that's put getting worked up about the toll of gravity into perspective for me.

I got told I was beautiful last week - he was 87, but I'm still going to take that

Oh, RuffleCrow, please stop embarrassing yourself.

Imagine ranting and raving about a film you've never seen and know nothing about. You truly embody the dumbing down of Mumsnet.

Erm Quintella, if you interpret someone giving cogent reasons for being repelled by the premise of a film and therefore disinclined to watch said film as 'dumbing down' that hardly makes you Barry Norman yourself.

You've positioned yourself as someone who watches literally everything before forming an opinion on whether it's worth spending 90 minutes of your life on.

Unless you're actually the Face of Boe, that makes you look rather ridiculous yourself. People in glass houses, etc.

All About Eve is also an excellent film with similar themes from memory.

Hugh now, we've heard enough of your inane ramblings.