To hate how I look now I'm older.

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I know it's ridiculous and probably quite shallow, but just lately I seem to have aged rapidly. I was horrified at my old looking face at the hairdressers earlier. I used to like the way I looked, was always told I was beautiful, now I feel invisibible. Anyone else mourn their lost looks?

I’m 58 in a few weeks. I have more confidence now than I did as a 20 something and supposedly at my peak of physical attractiveness.

SerenDippitty

Same here. I am 57 and I am at the height of confidence.

And that gets noticed.

I havent seen Baby Jane but it sounds like a museum piece of unchecked misogyny to me. Where are the classic films where older men are painted as ridiculous and vaguely threatening simply for having the gall to be part of the natural aging process that affects all living things?

Never hate growing old. It is a privilege denied to so many.

OMG are you me? I sat staring at my old face at hairdresser today to. Then went straight to pharmacy and spent £25 on eye bag cream! 😂😂

What Ever Happened to Baby Jane is a brilliant film. Best to watch things before dismissing them I find.

Baby Jane is a classic

Not too worried about the grey hairs, strange chin and nipple hairs or even the post menopausal belly. I just wish my bones didn’t ache when I get up each morning and I wasn’t so dam tired all the time.

Sorry OP, but I think you are being a little shallow.

People will be dying as I type this, people will have learnt today they are terminally ill as I type this, people will have lost children, parents, siblings, friends as I type this...

To mourn the fact you are losing your youthful features is a little shallow yes. Maybe if women weren't structured by society to look constantly beautiful they could focus on better things in their lives than that as to how they should appear to others.

Pathetic really, isn't it?

It's a waste of your life & energy to feel that bad about getting older.

Ah, the benefits of always having had a face like the back of a bus - nothing to lose

Marchinupanddownagain absolutely! I've always been remarkably ugly and I have nothing to lose by ageing. I do regret that I never had a gorgeous glowy phase in my 20s when all I had to do was roll out of bed and drag a brush through my hair, but if having that means that you have to spend all your subsequent years bewailing your lost beauty, I'm happy to have given it a miss. What a shitty society we live in when women think youth is all they have going for them.

I'm not that old, 29, but my ass has gone 'middle aged'
I'm 50 and my arse is fabulous!

I am late 30s and feel that I’m probably looking better than ever! I have more money for clothes, make-up, treatments, hair etc. Oh and I’m hitting the gym regularly. I don’t think I’ve ever had this much male attention

I'm 47 and looking better than ever! (almost/sometimes!).

I do look awful in the hairdresser mirror and I do wear full make up (always have which I think is why I don't have wrinkles yet).

I get taken for 10yrs + younger all the time!

Having said that If I've had lack of sleep it can really show after a couple of days.

I eat lots of wholegrains/veg/fruit, exercise alot (despite my mum tum) but never take my make up off and go out drinking quite alot.

Same here. Today I've looked at my reflection and suddenly feel old. My hair is frizzy, my skin is marked and lumpy I just look fucking awful. Would love to go back to when I thought I was ugly and swap how I look now.

Yep. Me today.

Yup, I was really beautiful when I was young, I can say that without being vain now I'm nearly 60. got endless attention. I feel comfortable about the way I look now as I had my day in the sun and we all age so it's better to accept it but the comments from other people about how I look now really piss me off.
Yes I know I don't look like I did when I was 25 so please just piss off with the old and fat comments already

Meh...different age/ different problems.

Teenage years- spots and low self esteem so didnt feel beautiful even though was stunning.
20s...too busy having an eating disorder...piled on weight once reached 6 stone.
30s...adjusting to mum bod.
40s...more wrinkles but give less of a shit. Doing the minimum to look good...moisturiser, hair dye, occasional peel.prob a bit overweight but love food.
Wish i had more energy though.

I have learned to embrace looking older, my brain feels like I am 25 but my face looks ancient and older than I actually am and I hate seeing myself in the mirror.
That said, every wrinkle and line could tell you a story... It's a face which shows love, laughter, sorrow and life.
We have a been brainwashed with photoshopped images of perfection for too long.

I tell you I'm glad I haven't become invisible to men post-40 as I always seemed to be invisible to men anyway!

I've always been very happy about my looks though - not 'cos I'm gorgeous, I just never cared. 'Going on the pull' was never part of my life and I was quite happy to not get lots of attention.

Definitely aware I am looking older and 'stouter' these days, and occasionally a little wistful that in some sense my prime is past, but tbh I have my DH, I have my kids, it's not like I'm looking for admiration or need validation about my looks from anyone (though DH is kind enough to give it often!). And I'm quite interested in the changes as I get older (other than the chin hairs! ) - I always accepted I'd probably put on weight and get lines etc. It doesn't mean giving up on myself, I go to the gym, I enjoy clothes and stuff, but it helps that I value myself for stuff other than looks.

I don't think we do become 'less visible'.

I think that's patriarchal bollocks for "we wouldn't dare wolf-whistle at you now or date you in order to fuck you around because you look like someone who's learned to stand up to our incessant bullshit".

I'm hearing how great Baby Jane is - why??Does it have a fabulous ironic feminist subtext? Is it about more than how terrifyingly tragic older women are? You're not really selling it.

Watch it, don't watch it. But it's a bit weird to to rant about something you know nothing about.

Yeah, another rave review there

I'm still going with not.