To hate how I look now I'm older.

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I know it's ridiculous and probably quite shallow, but just lately I seem to have aged rapidly. I was horrified at my old looking face at the hairdressers earlier. I used to like the way I looked, was always told I was beautiful, now I feel invisibible. Anyone else mourn their lost looks?

I look like an ordnance survey map with contour lines.

All went TU for me after I hit about 35. I see new wrinkles every day it feels like.

A quick word @Meta....😁 FFS appreciate what you have now! At 30, unless you e had a terribly hard life, you should still be at your peak. I felt fantastic til I got to 54. Now, a few years later it really IS all going downhill but in my 30’+? I was a goddess!

I "was" thrilled to turn middle aged because my beloved mother died when she was 45.
I spent a great deal of my life worrying that I wouldn't live to see 45 but I'm now 48.

My DH turned 50 a few days ago and EVERYONE has said that they can't believe he's 50 because he looks so good for his age.
I NEVER get that compliment. I get, "You're 48? I thought you were older" and they cover this crappy comment with, "I think it's because you seem so mature and worldly-wise". Oh F OFF!

I get you OP. I look at myself in the mirror and think that I can't reconcile the youthful woman in my head with the white-haired frump in the mirror.

Ageing sucks out-loud! I spent about 20 mins trying to take an acceptable selfie of myself for my WhatsApp profile this morning and failed miserably, so I've put one up of the dog instead! I was fine and dandy with how I looked until post menopausal, aged 54. I'm 56 now and It's as if all the collagen has completely drained from my body. My hair, once so glossy and bouncy is now dry and lifeless. I look at pictures of me even from 2 years ago and I looked really good, now I just look so knackered and old. Fortunately DH says I haven't changed a bit in our 32 years of marriage, bless him. Oh and I agree hairdressers' mirrors should carry a trigger warning!

@RedBarry 😂😂😂 you’ve put a photo of you’re dog up instead! Brilliant!

I'm mid 50's and try not to look too closely at all the lines on my face! A small child asked me the other day "what are those lines on your face " I replied "smile lines" . I struggle to find foundation that doesn't accentuate the wrinkles and I only have to look at a piece of cake and the scales go up 2lbs. I am, however, fit and healthy and I think that is far more important than looks.

Posted too soon.... I said to DH last night after torturing myself in the bathroom with the magnifying mirror, “I wish I had hair all over me, like the dog. Then I wouldn’t have to worry about wrinkles or double chins”. “You DO have hair all over your face, love”. Fucker! 😡

wigglesniggles
It's also true that in thirty years time you will look back and think how young you looked now.

Thirty years? Passports are only 10 & they're depressing enough

@MissKittyBeaudelais 😂 he's a brave man!!

Ugh...same OP. I looked quite young for my age for years and BAM it's all caught up with me in a period of about 2 years.

I'm happier now in my 60's than I ever was when younger, I may have gained some wrinkles, but my figure is still a size 10, I'm healthy and strong, and I don't miss the attention the younger me got, I used to die inside when walking down the street in the days when work men could whistle and shout obscenities, I love being invisible and have so much more confidence.

In the space of 3 years my eyelids have started to sag and the skin isn't as taught as it used to be. I hate it. I also have white eyebrow hairs every week that i pluck out. I'm only 33!!!

People on this thread may feel they're losing their looks but you're funny as fuck Potatoes in backs of cupboards, hairy chins, faces of meth I genuinely think I'd rather make people laugh (with me, not at me!) than turn heads with my stunning beauty

However it's easy for me to say that as I never had any periods of stunning beauty Perhaps it's "easier" to age when your bar was set low anyway?

Someone in my corner shop this week randomly asked me if I had cancer. (This is true I swear!) I don't have cancer, I do have a disability and I do look tired atm, so it was perhaps an understandable albeit slightly bizarre query. I think I just have to accept I'm a hairy potato with a meth face

CletusVanDamme
Thanks for your message. 😊

"Someone in my corner shop this week randomly asked me if I had cancer"

wait, wut?!

I also have white eyebrow hairs every week that i pluck out. I'm only 33!!!

I’m also 33 and found my first white eyebrow hair last week ffs 😫 I wasn’t ready for it! I can’t pluck it though as my eyebrow are sparse already, I just colour over it.

I'm not that old, 29, but my ass has gone 'middle aged' as my friend kindly pointed out. I'm slim and up until now have had a good, pert bottom. I used to get a lot of compliments. However, it's gone all flat and slightly saggy and I'm very conscious of it!! Where's my nice little bum gone. Sad situation.

Your mistake was looking in the hairdressers mirror.

I had this exact conversation with my hairdresser yesterday. I was in theer for a couple of hours I said I look awful in your mirror, show me the dermal filler price list.

She informs me that the lighting they use to make your hair look fab, bring out colour and shine, makes your face look shit. The angles and brightness cast shadows and make your skin look sallow.

She is late 20's and got under the light and looked a lot worse, she used the free mirror to show the difference.

Next time I will just close my eyes and not look in her scary mirror.

Just to add, I have never been a spectacular beauty or in fantastic shape, if anything I have always been the 'duff' to my friends. Not completely unfortunate just a bit plain - but always youthful!

Someone in my corner shop this week randomly asked me if I had cancer. I hope you gave them a swift flying V!

I swear the question about cancer is true, I wouldn't believe it if someone said that had happened to them!

In fairness I do have a hairstyle which is partially shaved and I was looking extremely tired whilst leaning on a trolley. Still though, surely it's like asking strangers when they are due aka NEVER DO THIS EVER.

(I just realised my posts could be insensitive to people with cancer I really don't mean any offence or upset. I am ill and I look it. She clearly felt bad when I said no, then I felt bad for her. It was all very odd really).

Yeah it’s depressing. Even ore depressing is that it gets worse from here on in...
turning 30 didn’t bother me but now I’m 36 so practically 40 and that bothers me a lot more.

I think I didn’t really make the most of myself when I was younger either, I always felt hugely fat (I wasn’t) and kind of just let my youth slide away. Now I’m oooooooold .

I’m slim, slimmer now than in my 20s actually, at a size 6-8 but I’m now a ‘butter face’.
My kids have aged me. It’s their fault I always look old and haggard!

I was fat as a child and had 2 skinny sisters. I got called lots of names. I became a free spirit in the 70s when I was a teen, and got lots of attention. Didn't wear a scrap of make up. My ex called me names again when I was in my 20s. He didn't last long! My 30s and 40s were when I felt most confident and attractive. Now I'm at the end of my 50s. I often get a shock when I catch sight of myself in the mirror, hate buying clothes and at times could cry. BUT my life is so much better now than it ever was. I feel confident, happy, calm and ready for anything. I wear quite fashionable things, my two DDs see to that! My wonderful grandson thinks I'm fantastic!
Regarding make up, I'd advise going to a decent make up counter such as Clinique and ask for a make up lesson. Avoid the heavy made up look! I actually wear foundation, blusher and mascara most days now and feel more confident with it on.

I was onaschool trip and a little girl asked "Miss, what are those dark things under your eyes?"

I look like an inflated corpse that has been dug out of the drains.

what is "butter face" please?

'nice body but her face is ugly'