To wonder why my husband is incapable?

[eeva90]

Long time lurker, first time poster...

DM and MIL have the same birthday. DH and I have been together 6 years and this has never been an issue. He will do something with MIL and I will do something with DM. Last year he went to MIL's and I took DS to DM's.

DM and MIL both have meals planned for this Sunday at similar times (v inconvenient). MIL has decided she would like her grandchildren there which is fine. I would like to see DM as DB is bringing his new GF to the meal and I want to meet her! I have said to DH, take the kids with you to the meal as MIL would love to spend the day with them.

DH is point blank refusing to take DC by himself. Says 2 kids is too much to handle (despite me doing it everyday). I have told him that MIL would be very hands on (as she always is with the kids) so he wouldn't be alone.

DH is now calling me selfish and unreasonable for 'ruining his mother's birthday because I won't take the kids!' Despite me being happy for DC to go with him...

AIBU? Or is he?

Not going to engage with you Tea, you obviously want to have a fight as you are extrapolating one comment from one poster to somehow be what the OP is doing. That's my point. I've never said you are being ridiculous, that's what you keep suggesting of others.

Clearly you think you are totally right about what is normal and what is "Jeremy Kyle" theatrics 🙄, I don't think most of us think that's what the OP is doing and I don't imagine it's very helpful to have you suggesting it, but as you were

How did it go OP?