For not wanting to holiday abroad?

[chocolatelog]

Myself and 4 out of 5 of the children haven't been abroad. We don't even have passports.

Dh and the 3 oldest all want to go on holiday this year. Dh has found a holiday for 10 days in Spain and is pressuring me to go but I've got zero interest. My eldest (17) has been with her friends family so she's got the bug and is begging me to go.
A part of me feels like I should go because before long the kids will be older and won't be interested in going with us, but I just can't be bothered with it all. I filled in one passport form and that was enough to make me go 🙈 it took 5 attempts at getting it wrong, so the thought of filling in 5 people's worth is enough to put me into an early grave!

The two youngest are 5 and 2 and I feel like it won't really be an enjoyable experience for me, dh is very hands on with them but I'm a stress head and get into rage pretty quickly 😬

Plus the money for passports and the actual holiday for 7 people makes me think we could use it for better things, we both need a new cat each and I'm thinking I'd rather those than a pissing holiday 🤦🏻‍♀️

I don't know if my attitude to it all is because I've never been abroad, I'm quite happy to spend a week in Cornwall or Dorset or anywhere else that this country has to offer. The thought of flying and watching the kids like a hawk just doesn't appeal to me in the slightest. Is it a case of what you've never had you never miss? Or should I just put my happy face on and agree to going?

We didn't go a huge amount as children and I have very little desire to go now as an adult. Laying by a pool for a week does nothing for me either op. I'd rather go and do an experience like ski or trek mountains. Could you consider something more like that or are they all wanting the sun?

Tell dh if he will make all the arrangements, then you'll go. He can book it, apply for passports and pay for them, then you just have to turn up. You'll enjoy it when you get there.

Alternatively, he goes with the older kids, and you stay at home with the littlies.

Otherwise, you're being very selfish! There are seven people here, not just you!

In your OP you say your DH is very "hands on"

You've spent the rest of the thread telling us he's a useless man child. Which is it?

They are miserable on one day out together so I suspect the holiday would be miserable too. I think there’s work to do on relationships at home before the same problems are transplanted abroad.

@Ladyofthecanyon I have been thinking this all along. The op said her dh was great in her first post and then when the general consensus was that she was being unreasonable, she changed this. The drip feeding has been phenomenal. It's draining to read the whole " Me. I don't like. I don't want. Me." and no consideration for the other 6 people at all.

Love how I'm the one being called selfish for not wanting to go abroad 🤦🏻‍♀️ have you seen the state of this planet? By me not going that means my family won't and one less family to fill a plane and cause more chaos to earth. I'm the selfish one but isn't holidaying abroad for all your own selfishness? Could quite easily stay at home and enjoy your own beautifully country but nope.

Oh well I'm off to get my hair and nails done now because I'm a slob apparently 😂

With 5 kids I'd get off that environment high horse pretty damn quick.

Ah now you won’t go for environmental reasons?
What about Spain’s fascist past? Do you want any more ‘excuses’?
OP you need help. If you had a miscarriage and you are joking about conceiving then something is not right.
Apparently till this thread you didn’t realise you were anxious. But you have been to the GP. You refuse to take medication. Or any responsibility for anything really.
Either you are a troll or someone who needs fairly serious mental health help.

have you seen the state of this planet? By me not going that means my family won't and one less family to fill a plane and cause more chaos to earth.

Oh look at that, yet another change in your "story". So you've now added the environment to you list of excuses? Ok then- why do you have so many kids if you care about the environment or why are you going to pollute the air with that van you DH needs to buy? Give up & grow up, OP- you look pathetic.
FYI, you are selfish because you seem to forget that your family consist of 7 people, not just you.

I totally get the environmental issues and that this could be a reason why people choose to stay in this country. But op you have 5 kids. Aren’t the 3 worst things for the environment, eating meat, flying and having kids?!

Soon to be 6 soon hopefully 🤞🏼

I'm not using it as an excuse, I'm not going. We've booked to go elsewhere now. Was using it as an example of selfishness to all those that choose to fly instead of not.

Omg she's still going..... Christ give it up! Your story is a joke!

Well on the bright side your 17 year old will be old enough to do her own thing shortly, so she will hopefully get to travel and break this family tradition
And your DH is buggering off to Vegas again when your 6th child is due (!) so I guess that’s a super good use of family money, instead of passports eh?

Steady on @Nixen I've not conceived yet 😂

You posted a thread about your DP/DH going on a lads holiday when your baby was due? Apologies if you’ve lost that pregnancy but the comment about 6 kids soon hopefully didn’t sound like it. If that’s the case maybe get some help with your depression and anxiety before TTC / having an ‘accidental pregnancy’ again? For everyone’s sake.

Unfair to consider a sixth child when your Sunday with the five you have was so awful imo

@yeah I had a miscarriage.

@nixen

@chocolatelog you have just made this a complete joke now. Zero sympathy for you and I feel so sorry for your family. It must be difficult for your kids to have a mother like you and your DH must find you such hard work, always having to do things your way. I couldn't imagine being in a marriage like that.

Also, the not flying being good for the environment is bullshit because the plane would already be going with or without you and also you are bad for the environment by having so many children and wanting a van, which uses so much petrol.

@GreytExpectations diesel.

I smell windup

diesel

it is going a bit wind up now

are you happy op?

Just to pipe in about the flying thing.
There is a carbon footprint calculator on carbonfootprint.com and if you go let's say London to Malaga return trip, plane makes 0.36 tonnes of CO2e while average petrol car makes 0.95. 🤷‍♀️
Before anyone says train... It's like £300+ a return... Per person...