To despise of my husbands cat and wish it wouldn’t come back home

[Luc187]

I HATE my husbands cat. He purchased the cat just as we got together 10 years ago, in a house he owned by himself so I didn’t have a say. I hated her from then.

Fast forward we now live in a joint house that I love to bits and I find it DISGUSTING the cat has weed twice in the last week. In the past she’s pissed in my handbag, on our spare bed, on my jeans. I come downstairs for breakfast and smell CAT. PISS. She keeps bringing beheaded mice that bloodstain our rug. It’s vile. I never signed up for this, I didn’t spend all this money on a house to be subjected to this.

We plan on having children, I cannot tolerate this disgust around a child. It’s vile, she always projectile vomits too in the utility room.

I’ve had enough, is it reasonable to want her sent to a cats home or something?

she is murdering and eating various animals it could be a sign of something more serious.
There must be something wrong with the majority of the cat population then

Except my father’s Siamese. He was a bastard and did carefully targeted pees. There are many living witnesses to this behaviour!

FFS if you don't like cats and don't want to live with one, why the hell did you stay in a relationship and move in with someone that has one??

You only have yourself to blame.

Also to PPs, being an animal lover and wanting to see them treated right does not equate to hating humans FFS. I'm a compassionate person to both humans and animals, I hate to see people in pain and I hate seeing animals in pain. It's not an either/or.

This ^

But I do think that the people who regard animals as disposable commodities probably have similar attitudes towards people - a life is a life and is infinitely precious to the person/creature living it.

Domestic animals don't have the luxury of deciding who they will live with or how they will be treated. Most don't have the opportunity to escape a horrible situation.

If more people thought about the animals they were taking on, and considered their feelings, and really looked into how long they might live, and the demands they would make on time and money, we might have fewer pet animals but they would be much happier.

I love most animals, I don't think I',m sentimental about them, but I hope that I am kind, and considerate of their needs and feelings.

And I would never "get rid" of something that was in my way . If there was a medical reason I would do my very best to get an animal comfortably re-homed, but otherwise I very much believe that if you take an animal on (your choice) then you have a responsibility to look after it.

What a depressing thread. I am a teacher and we teach pet care through the PSHE syllabus at my school. I might ask the children what they think about euthanasia of pets who are no longer wanted or the practice of putting cats in cages. I might even ask what they think about the proposed theory that people who treat pets well, have little empathy for adults as one poster has so intelligently put.
If this thread is still up and running I will let you know the responses of the children.
Maybe some of the adults on here might then learn something.

“If there was a medical reason I would do my very best to get an animal comfortably re-homed, but otherwise I very much believe that if you take an animal on (your choice) then you have a responsibility to look after it.”
So do I. And part of that “looking after” is deciding when the right choice is PTS. No cat is happy if it can’t keep itself clean.

“I might ask the children what they think about euthanasia of pets who are no longer wanted”

So long as you present the situation to them accurately and unsentimentally then go right ahead.

"MURDERING"

This thread is ace

My ex partner started off not being keen on my cat then he was complaining about it frequently. One day I found out he'd been abusing it by spraying disinfectant in its face.
Funnily enough that's why he's now my ex.
The cat was here first, cat is still here and ex is now living in his mother's attic room. Think long and hard about whether your other half would choose between you and his cat because it might not be the choice you assume he'd make.

The cat probably senses that you despise them and is deliberately targeting your handbag and finest soft furnishings with vomit and piss. That's what I would do if I were the cat anyway!

That cat despises you, OP - you've got to go

The cat lived in your husband's home when you first met him. No-one owns a cat, they have one in their home. I would never want to live in a home with a dog, and so had the situation arisen, would have discussed this long before marriage.

The suggestions re a collar (possible) or ill-health are ones to be taken seriously, but the cat should stay.

Cats like the one pictured deserve love not hate. If it were me running the country you would be obliged to look after the cat (or a dog) were your DH to die suddenly, or respect the wishes re pets in his will.

@OnlyYellowRoses I remember your thread on that, and I really felt for you. Finding out was such a shock, & I wondered what happened to you in the end.

Well done on being strong and sticking to your choice to get rid of the vilest animal in your life!

Worth a check up with the vet as elderly cats can develop a weak bladder - however it may well just be that pussy gets stressed with you in the house . Annoying though it is cat piss won’t hurt you .

Wow, this thread has made me despair. Some of the comments on here regarding animals are absolutely disgusting - you're talking about LIVES here people! Real little lives who have thoughts and feelings! Yes, not everyone is an animal person and that's fine, everyone is different. However, there is absolutely NO reason to be so unnecessarily cruel to/about another living creature. Try to show some fucking humanity.

That poor cat having to live with you.

Hear hear Candycats

There have been some truly vile posters on here today. Thankfully the majority seem to have some decency.

Does your husband know of how you speak about his pet?
If not, please tell him so he can make arrangements to get rid of the problem. I'm sure he'll find a competent professional quite fast now that almost every high street contains a divorce lawyer.

Martini

I would get rid of anyone who hated my cats. There is something very strange about a person who feels comfortable calling an animal named like vile and disgusting.

The cat might live another 10 years, so the best thing is to make it so that you all find a way of peacefully co existing.
Going to the vet to rule out any medical issues is good.
Meanwhile keep cat out of rooms she does not need access to, it will limit where she can pee.
Make sure litter tray is clean, some cats can be real neat freaks.
I've never used Feliway but people do swear by it for nervous cats.
My cat is a puker too, mainly due to hairballs and the fact she wolfs down her food too fast. we try to feed her small amounts often so that she isn't ravenous but it doesn't always work.
How would you feel about having the odd play with her, the 2 of you having a better relationship could improve things for the both of you.

🤣. Well you'd be fucked in Oz! Cats, dogs, mice, rats, snakes, spiders galore.

Huge decapitated rabbits?! Ducking he'll. Is she actually a lioness?